Episode 20 - Life Lately

Life lately? BUSY. Between work, family, goals, and trying to remember what sleep feels like 😅— In this episode, we’re catching you up on the chaos, the wins, the struggles, and how we’re still getting things done (even if it's one coffee at a time).

We’re sharing how we stay grounded when life gets overwhelming, what’s been working for us, and how we’re learning to embrace and celebrate life.at the same time

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You're listening to unfiltered us, where we keep it real and unscripted. I'm your host, Suzy, along with my husband, Miguel. Ready to dive in? Let's get started. Okay. Welcome. Welcome. How are you? My love. I feel very pinky today. Very pinky. Okay, look at me. My pink microphone. My pink dress. That's a good thing. That's good. Pink in my earrings. It looks good. It's funny. I asked if you wanted to buy a pink case for your phone, and then I was like that. I don't even like that color. And then here I am wearing it. Yeah. That's good. Well welcome everybody. Episode 20. So we've had an interesting July so far I think. Right. June. July, yes. Towards the end of June would you say. Yeah. A lot of stuff has happened. Uh, super busy. I feel like we haven't rested. I feel like we've been going nonstop with pretty much areas, all areas of our life. Would you say? Yes. And it's crazy because, you know, that's just the way life is, right? And you have to learn how to manage those times, um, that you have no choice but to do what you gotta do in order for you to keep going, you know, and, and, and hope that one day you'll get to rest. At least that's what I'm hoping. That I'm waiting for a day or a weekend. Where? We can actually rest. I feel like my body needs rest because we have not been without stopping for almost a month now. So maybe you can talk a little bit about the beginning of all this madness. So I guess it's just like an update on our lives, correct? Yeah. You know, because and then obviously we'll expand and we'll talk about it. But I think there's a lot of stuff that goes behind the scenes sometimes, you know, you gotta realize that people that follow us, maybe on social media, they see what we post. They might only see a fraction of the things that we do. Um, but there's a lot, so much more going on behind the scenes that obviously we just don't have all the time to post or to get into details. And I feel like this podcast gives us that opportunity to maybe talk a little bit more about that, or just stuff that we just would rather not post. Yeah, well, we can talk about those things too here in this podcast. Yeah. Or stuff that you choose not to post. Exactly. Yes. Yeah. So I guess it kind of all started I mean, I don't know. I don't know if there's a specific time, though. I mean, I feel like we've always been busy. I don't feel like we ever really get rest. Besides going on vacation and on vacation, I feel like we don't rest either. But that's how I like our lives. I don't like, yeah, I don't like slow paced. I like when we're busy. But there is sometimes that I wonder, like, oh my gosh, can we just rest? So it seems like it all kind of really like really went into high gear when, um, I would have to say when my aunt got sick. Yeah. Because I, um, we thought we were going to have more time with her, and obviously we did, and she ended up passing away. Um, June 24th. Uh, they had given us hopes that maybe she would be with us for months, but that didn't even happen that I, I talked to the doctor on, like, a Saturday, and she was gone by Tuesday. Yeah. Uh, on Sunday was when we the doctor had said months. Yeah. On Sunday. Yeah. And, um, I remember talking to my cousin on Monday night about how we were going to handle her, um, like, nursing things because she, I mean, she obviously she just couldn't stay in the hospital. So she had breast cancer. That just ended up spreading like crazy. Uh, and we were thinking, okay, obviously she can't be in the hospital. Like, we have to take her somewhere because the hospital, you could only stay for so long, right? And so the hospital was wondering what we were going to do with her because, um, she went in because the breast cancer had gone through her lungs and they were draining out the liquid in her lungs. And so once they figured out the lung situation, they were saying, like, okay, are you going to put her in hospice? What are you going to do? Well, yeah, at that point, uh, at home health. Yeah. The at home health care just wasn't enough. It wasn't enough. It needed. She wasn't at home health before she went into the hospital. But they were only coming twice a week or something like that. And obviously that wasn't enough. She needed more attention. So I remember talking to my cousin on Monday about that. And, um, the next morning we went to the gym as normal. And, and that's when my sister calls me and is like, you need to come. You know, our aunt isn't doing well and she's not going to last much longer. That was on that Tuesday morning. Yeah, before I thought. From the way I know my sister. I was like, oh, she's just being dramatic because she's the youngest one and she's just dramatic. And I was like, oh, okay. And I didn't really take like what she was telling me. Like that serious. Right. And um, Alyssa, um, was like, well, I'll go and I'll see because Aaron is here now to watch the kids a week. I could go and I could go see how bad it is. And sure enough, when she got there, she told me it was really bad and that to go and that was the that was the day she ended up passing away. Yeah. That afternoon. Yeah. So that was just hard. Hard because we were, you know, my aunt, um, she didn't have any kids or was never married. Actually, she was a nun, so that's crazy because she was a nun for 15 years, so she actually ended up taking care of my grandparents up until the day they passed away. Then my mom took her in and she lived with my mom for many, many years. And, uh, so she, in a sense, like, took care of all of us, right? Like, especially the ones that lived here in Vegas. Um, because she just didn't have kids of her own. So for her, it was just easy to take on everybody else's kids, if that makes sense. And then once we started having kids of our own, that she became the aunt for all those little kids. Like a second mom, in a sense. Right. A second grandma type of deal. Yeah. And so it was she was surrounded by, like, I would have to say like 25 people when she took her last breath. Yeah. Because there was so many people that really appreciated everything she did for them, you know. Right. And so that was just so, so hard. I mean, I know a lot of people couldn't go or just chose not to go because they chose not to, like, see her in her last moments like that. Um, but obviously, if there was, there would have been a a ton, ton more people. Yeah. Well, I think on that aspect, what you just said as far as. Not even though there was a lot of people in the room right when she passed away, we were all there. But I feel like because it happened so fast, right? And obviously we have family from out of town. I know that there are some people that maybe thought like like we thought that we had some time, you know, because on Sunday they said months on Monday, you know, for I, I, I saw her Monday morning, we saw her Sunday, Monday and Tuesday that she passed away. And then on Monday, um, she was still up. She was still talking. Um, she was still doing things, you know, and it wasn't until that Tuesday morning when she woke up or early in the morning that we realized that, you know, today is the day, you know, but from one day to the other, you could have never you knew was coming, but maybe not from one day to the other, if that makes sense. And so, even though there was a lot of people in that room, I know that there are some people, some family members that, um, could possibly have been there and would love to have been there, but because it was so fast, they just couldn't make it. Although we did have some family members, like all of a sudden just drop everything they were doing and come down to see her, you know? And it was beautiful to see all the people that were there for her, you know, I think. Dad showed, I don't know, it just showed. It just showed great value and family, you know, it showed that like you say, even though she never had any kids, even though she never was married, man, she was everybody's aunt, you know, she was everybody's idea and and she I probably over 20 people were in that room when she passed away easily in between, you know, sisters and nieces and nephews and, uh, their kids and, and and it was just spouses, right. Because there was a lot of us that were there as well, two that are married into the family. And, um, it was, it was, um, you know, it was it was so sudden. It was so fast, even though we knew it was coming. It was so fast. Yeah. You know, it was so fast. Um, us as cousins had talked about having a huge birthday party for her because her birthday would have been, would have been delightful. 44th. And so we had we were discussing in the group chats that how we should have a huge party for her because this will probably be her last birthday. Right. And this is she never even made it to her birthday, so. Right. Um, well, we decided to do. Which I mean, it's really nice to have obviously have a celebration of life. Um, so we were planning a a huge celebration of life, which is what we ended up doing for her. We collected money from all the cousins and, um, did something amazing for her, which I like to think she looked down on that and and really was proud of everything we did for her. Yeah. And so we just made it a party for her. Even though she wasn't here. I mean, it wasn't a party. We we talked about all the great times that we had with her. And. Yeah, um, how we're going to miss the little things that she would do for us. And we've even shared, like, voicemails that she would leave for all of us. And then I was like, man, why did I answer all her phone calls? Because I did not get a voicemail. You were the good news. I was the one I would ask for. It was crazy that she would leave a voicemail. Yeah, that was crazy. Voicemail. And so it was nice. And then everybody ended up finding, like, um, random notes that she left. Right. Which was really nice to see her leaving notes for for everyone. And, um, it just makes you appreciate life because she never got sick. Right. Like, she was always so proud that she was never sick, that she never got sick, that she never had high cholesterol or high blood pressure. Nothing like she didn't take any kind of pills. Walked everywhere. She was such an active, active person. Right. And so for her to get cancer was just crazy to her, you know? And she even told you that, um, she's just surprised that this is how her life was going to end. Because she never thought that she would die from such a disease. Right. Which is crazy, because cancer just kills. Anybody know they feel like everybody knows someone that has cancer, which before. When it was, you wouldn't really find a lot. When you tell somebody, oh, I have cancer or I know someone. It was like shocking, like, oh, that sucks, you know? So now it seems like, yeah, a ton of people die from cancer, right? So it makes you, um, it makes you appreciate, like I wish I had. We always wish we had more time with people. And so you always have to be like, man, I have to spend time with the people that I love. Because you just never, never know. It could be a really old person or a really young person because it really just never matters the age. It could happen from one day to the next. Yeah. You know, I, I came to realize that aspect of appreciation of family and the people that are very, very close to you. When my mom passed away, you know, because, um, well, kind of like your aunt, you know, she wouldn't live with her. But we knew where she lived. We didn't talk to her all the time, but we can call her at any time. And given any party, any celebration, any holiday, any anything, that family came together. We would see her, you know? And when the person has passed away, you don't have that anymore. You know, you know where she lived, but she's not there anymore. You want to call that person? But that person is not there anymore. You know, there is a birthday coming up. Uh, like, my birthday just passed, and she wasn't there. You know, a holiday would come. She's not going to be there. She'll be there in spirit, but not in her physical presence. Right. And so that just goes to show that unfortunately, us as human beings, we have to go through something like that. And it's sad for us to realize that, man, we do need to spend more time with our loved ones. We do need to spend more time with our family. And the one thing I can say is with, um, you know, your aunt passing away, uh, here in the last few weeks is that I feel that it's brought our family more together. You know, and I told you this. And you guys that are listening. Um, and and I and I said this from the very beginning, right from when this whole thing happened. And I saw the way your mom handle herself during this whole process. My most respect for her. You know, I know that we haven't had the best of a relationship that a mother in law and a son in law can have over the last 30 years. You know, we've had our little ups and downs, but man, this past few weeks has brought me so much closer to her. And I told you first. Then I told your dad, and I told your brother because I won. I just don't want you to know. And I told her. And she knows that I know that if if I see your mom today and I. And you can ask her without me being there, you know, um, the words that I've shared with her and what I've told her since all even before your aunt passed away, she was here. I think that Saturday night they were here at the house, and I, I, I told her, right. There's some things that I told her. And because I saw the way she was handling herself and what she was doing. And even till now, if you were to ask her how my. You know, relationship has been. I can guarantee you she's noticed it, but I didn't want you to know. So I told my father in law because I wanted him to know as well. And then I told my brother in law because I wanted him to know as well that I have the most respect on how your my admiration on how your mom handled herself and the things that she did and, um, what she's said and what she's done and how she had the whole, the, her whole handle of herself towards her sister passing away has been very, very, uh, admirable, if that's the word. Yeah, yeah. And so I, I feel from my point of view and obviously because I, I feel like we're close to each other. We're close to our kids and our grandkids, you know, like our family, our immediate family. Right. And then we look at obviously your parents, but I feel like somebody passing away brings you way closer to more family. Or at least he should. Like we're reacting in a good way. Does that make sense? Yeah, I think it's broad. Especially the cousins. The cousins to. Yeah, yeah. Because, um, because like I said, she was like a second mom to all a lot of us. And so I feel like, um, she's brought us closer together, and, um, we've started even talking about, like, cousin trips. Yeah. Yeah. You know, and little things like that. Because a chat, I mean, you guys are in a chat, but I do have a chat. Talks of a guy, group chat. We have a chat, but there's all these girls. Yeah, they don't want me. There's no guy chat. There's no guys in our cousin chat. These are the girl cousins. And so I am in no family chat. No, you are not. They don't want me there. You are. You are the immediate. The. Jeez. Yeah, well that one, but that's it. Yeah. That one. But yeah, I think that that's what triggered this whole, um, event of nonstop because obviously after she passed away, then, you know, then they came, all the preparations that you and your cousin and your sister, um, did a great job on preparing her, her, you know, celebration of life, if you would say. Which was beautiful, by the way. And now happened just right now on the 17th of July. Right. So I have been a week ago. Yeah. Well, yeah, tomorrow will be a week. Tomorrow, Thursday, when this podcast comes out, uh, if people are listening to it. So it it was exactly on the 17th, uh, a week ago. And that was amazing. There was a lot of people. Uh, it was it was it was an all day thing. Um, you know, and obviously right after that, that, um, uh, excuse me, right after your aunt passed away, you know, then there came, um, the 4th of July, right, which we, we we're here at the house and we have some family over and which we had a cake for her since that was her birthday. Right? We had a cake. We had all the little babies. Blew out the candle for her. Right. And that was beautiful. That was so beautiful. Um, but, you know, one thing I want to mention is, um, the day after she passed away, right on the 25th. Usually when I go outside and in the backyard first thing in the morning, I. I look at the pool and see if I need to put the robot to clean the leaves and all that. And there's always birds chirping. There's always, um, either the neighbors got their landscaper going on, or sometimes you hear a car. There's there's always some sort of noise that for sure, birds for sure. Birds all the time, because we have a lot of trees and a lot of birds that are back there. And then that morning I walked outside and it was complete silence, complete silence. It was like. The most peaceful morning where there is zero noise. And, you know, it doesn't matter whether you believe on it or not. But I think to me it's like the world was sad, you know, like the, the, the whole atmosphere, the whole environment was just quiet. It was at a still. Right. Because even when we went to the church right on the 17th and we got there, it was so quiet, like you could not hear one car passed by that street that's in front of the church, like zero, you know. And so I do want to say that I feel like that was her spirit in a sense, you know, of her resting peacefully and, uh, being in a better place now. Yeah. You know, and, um, so I don't know if there's anything you want to add to that. Uh, we all wondered who she was going to come into a dream first. Yeah. We're like, okay, let's see who gets to dream her first. Like who? And it ended up being, um, Orlando, which is my cousin's husband. And I was like, Orlando. Like. Um, all the people she went to, like, my cousin's husband. I mean, obviously she loved my cousin, my cousin Roxy Orlando so much. She adored them, I know. I always used to mess with her and be like, I know Roxy's your favorite. Yeah. Because anytime we had a party, she'd always be like, are you. Did you invite Roxy? Right? Is Roxy coming? Right. What time is Roxy coming? And then once Roxy would show up, she'd be like me. Go, man. Do you want to eat something? I'm like, oh my gosh. Like, that's. Yeah, you you really have a favorite. So which is fine. No, I know I would just do it to mess with her like it did I do, because she really was with Roxy from the moment that Roxy was born. And, um, and so she came to Orlando, and Orlando said that they were fishing on a lake in the dream. And, um, he was having a hard time, like getting fish, but she was fishing with him, and that she looked so happy. And then out of all of a sudden, he ends up catching four fish together. Right. And he pulls them out, and then he's like, oh, look. Yeah. Like I caught four fish. And then then she was like, I mean like that's great. You know, like the way she was. And then she was like, oh, it's so beautiful here. I think I'm going to stay here. Yeah. So I thought that was so beautiful because that to me, that meant that she was happy where she was and maybe she was no longer suffering. Right. And so it was just beautiful to hear such an amazing dream that she gave Orlando. And that was actually the night she passed away that he dreamt that. So the very next day, I don't know. So I think it was a couple days later because we ended up talking about it in the group chat. Okay. I thought it was a the night. No, no, no, I think it was a couple of days later because we had time to discuss it and see who got it, and and it was Orlando. But, um. But that was wonderful. Wonderful to hear. Yeah. Um, obviously, you later figured out that maybe the four fish meant them because Roxanne Orlando and then they have two kids, which is four, right? The four beautiful fish that he caught represented his family and the love that she had for them. That's the way at least I would like to see. Yeah. You know, I mean, it obviously dreams can be interpreted many different ways, but, um, it makes sense, you know, it makes sense. Or at least you want to look at it that way, at least. I mean, if I was them, I would have looked at it that way. Right. You know, because, um, I mean, we're now more, um, more than or, but, you know, for them, they're four. Yeah. And so it was great to hear that, um, she felt that peace, at least. Like I said, I like to I like to think that. Yeah. You know, I remember, um, a few years ago, one of my friends recommended me a book. Right? And we were talking about death. We were talking about, you know, uh, what happens after somebody passes away. And then she recommended me this book. From this lady that, um, has had in a sense, you know, conversations, um, with, uh, she's a hypnotist, right. And she's had people, uh, clients that she's hypnotized. And these are clients that maybe have passed away, but then brought back to life. Right. And she was telling me about, like, what these people tell her about what happens right when somebody passes away. And she recommended me the book, and I bought the book and I never read it, and I, I was about to read it. Um, maybe prior to your, you know, on passing away and I just started reading it today and based on what I've read so far from like the first few pages of the book, the dream makes total sense. The dream is exactly what happens when somebody passes away. You know, they're at a beautiful place and they're at peace, you know? So, um, I, I, I think the book is called life. No. A tree between life and death. Between death and life. Between Death and life by Dolores Cannon. So it's a great book. Um, I'm starting to read it. And, um, you know, if you guys care about that, then you should read it, you know, because it's it so far has been a great book, and it's it's easy to understand. That's one thing that I know that it's hard for a lot of people to understand whether it's sudden or, you know, it's coming, uh, the, the loss, the loss of a loved one, you know. Yeah. But my dad, which I don't know if a lot of people know, had actually ended up passing away and then brought back to life, I think three times. Yeah. He had a really massive heart attack. Um, and in the middle of a party, he was at a his nephew's wedding in Phoenix in Phoenix, Arizona. And, uh, he, he had just finished dancing with my mom. This was back in 2018. It, uh, he said my mom went to the restroom. He sat at the table, and he passed away, like, right there. He, like, slumped over and he. But thankfully, there was a lot of, um, first responders, like first responders. There was like a nurse, a doctor, I think, there. And then there was. Somebody from the military, military. And so they all knew how to do CPR, right? And so they ended up doing CPR. My dad, the three of them were taking turns because obviously doing CPR is is difficult. And so they brought him back. They brought him back to life. And then EMT got there quickly. They said because it was the fire department really wasn't that far. I wasn't there, thankfully, and neither were my sisters. And my brother had just left the party. So my mom is just crazy how life is because my mom wasn't there to see it. She was in the restroom. My brother had just left the party. Me and my sisters decided not to go to the party, right? Um, we couldn't make the wedding. Yeah. We just. I don't know what happened. I don't know what was going on, but we just decided not to go to the wedding. Yeah. Uh, so none of us actually saw him passed away. And, um, actually, when my mom ended up, they. My mom said she remembers them turning off the music when she was in the restroom, and she's like, why would the music turn off? And when she went back to the table, she. Like as she was approaching the table, people were telling her, don't look. Don't look like. Don't. Something's wrong with the world. You know, like, don't look. Don't look so sad. He was white. Yeah. Um. Or purple, I thought purple and some other color, obviously. And so my mom was like, what's going on? And obviously they had to tell her and and she. But she didn't get to see him, thankfully, in that state. When EMT got there, I think they did the, um, like the electrical shock. They don't know what it's called. Um, because he had passed through. He was passing away again. And so they ended up bringing him back to life. And so I asked my dad, like, what did you see? Like, how how was it like, because you passed away. And he says all the time, like to him, it felt like he fell asleep. Right? He doesn't remember anything. Like he remembers, like, almost like going to sleep and then waking up at the hospital. Right. And so, thankfully, I still have my dad here. Yeah. I don't know if out of conscious level you would remember if you pass away, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know, maybe. Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know, I mean, there I'm sure there might be some people, but this book that I'm reading, Obviously, the lady puts him in, um, in a trance. You know, he she has to hypnotize him for them to really dig deep and, um, you know, get to get it out of them, you know, and so, uh, that, that. But yeah, I think it happened two other times to your dad once he got in the ambulance and once he got once he got to the hospital where they had to bring him back. Yeah. Three times. They told us three times because I and I, I don't know exactly when the three times where. I just remember by the time he got to the hospital, they said he had passed away three times, but they kept bringing him back to life. Yeah. And, um. But my dad's strong man, like, he's still here. He's still like, he's a new man. And he does so much stuff. Like if he's 20 years old, you know, they don't make him like that anymore. You know, unfortunately. And men, men his age and, um, maybe a little bit younger than him, they, they just cut from a different cloth, you know, they're just there's just different breed. You know, I feel like I got the last of that. I hope so, I hope I got some part of that. I hope I got that little bit of that last cloth, you know, because if we talk about men nowadays, like the new young men. We can leave that for another topic because I don't know. But yeah. So after all that stuff happened at the 4th of July, we had that celebration right? For the, uh, we were here at the house, and then the fifth we drove to Arizona. We were going we went to Mexico to go see your family. Right. And, uh, it was because your dad had gone and he forgotten his. Yes. My dad could not come back to the United States. So, yeah, he forgot his papers here in the United States. And he crossed the line in Mexico and couldn't come back. So there we go. Plus, we wanted to go see your family. Yeah. After my aunt passing away on my mom's side, I was like, no, let me take this opportunity, because, I mean, we could have mailed it to him. Let's just be honest, because I do have an aunt that lives in Arizona on the other side of the border that could have easily got the paperwork and taken it to him. But I thought, um, no, this is a great opportunity to go see my aunts because I actually really love, love, love. And on my dad's side, right. Like, to me, she's like my twin. Like everything that she is. I promise you, I'm the same way. I'm like a mini her. It's scary. It's so scary. But it's funny because I. I see that with her and you. But then I also see that with you and Cindy's daughter with Mia. Like, I swear, you three are like three generations, but you're all the same. Like, I see your your aunt do things and I'm like, oh my God. Like, that's what my wife does. And then I see Mia do some things and I'm like, oh my God, you're just like your Thea, you know? So it's, uh, it's weird how that worked, but. Yeah, it's it's it's scary, but it's it's it's cool, I guess. Yeah. So it was great to spend time with her. She always obviously welcomes us to in her home. She always has. She has this extra, like, spare bedroom, but like, almost like a little house on the side of her house and she's like, oh yes. I was like, that's your house. Like whenever you come. That's in fact, there's been times where we have like huge family get togethers and she's like, oh no, that's that's Suzy's room. Like, no, no one else can stay there. If Suzy comes, that's her room. It's a good bet, too. Yeah, I love that. I mean, I love oh, I love that little house, the little house that they she's like, oh, no, that's Suzy's like, no one else could sleep there. Yeah. And it has everything. It's nice. Yeah. Um, so we went, we went to, we go to Arizona and then we were there with Saturday and then Sunday we, we stayed in Mexico all day, and then Monday we came back. So that was what, the seventh. Right. And then we were super busy because obviously my birthday was coming up and we, I, I was swamped with a lot of appointments and work and my birthday was on the 10th. And then, um, what happened the next day? I feel like something happened. So we're at the office back up on that the 18th. And then we celebrated, you know, here at the house. We just went to dinner for my birthday. It was just. Yeah, us. And that's usually what I do for my birthday. I just it's just you and the kids and of course, our grandkids. And we go to dinner and that's it. That's really what I, what I that's all I ask for for my birthday. I just want a dinner with my family. That's it. But, you know, we extended the invitation to your mom and dad this time, and I know they had some fun. And then on Sunday, that's when we had your sisters and, you know, their kids, some close friends. Some. Yeah, just. And a couple of them only, you know, um, because I, I didn't want this big party anyways, but, um. Man, I feel like we were nonstop. And then after that, we had, you know, uh, the celebration for your theme. And that was on a Thursday, which that went amazing as well, too. And then the very next day, we get back on the road again and we go to California and we had an event for work. Friday and Saturday. And then we were invited. We happened to be invited to a birthday party right on Saturday night, and it happens to be the same weekend as the event. So we're perfect. We're here. So we go to that. And then Sunday we drove back and then it feels like it's it seriously been feels. It feels like it's been nonstop. I feel like my body needs rest and and of course there's a bunch of stuff that happens in between, you know, you got work, you got this. We go to the gym. Um, I don't know. We watch grandkids, we watch the grandkids every once in a while. And then we got I mean, there's so many things going on, but I think you said it right at the very beginning. You know, that's just the way our life is. And even though we may, it may seem like we're going in a thousand different ways, we seem to just manage along and get it done, you know, like it. It's, um, I don't want to say it's nerve wrecking where it's going to put you over the board and you're gonna have a meltdown. But it is. It is pressure and the stuff that we we just handle, we just do. I think, um, though, there is times where you just have to. Slow down and appreciate life too, though. And I think that's why I like going on vacations. I feel like that's when I really appreciate the people that went on vacation with me. Right? Whether it be like close friends or close family or just you and me. Because even though, um, we were go, go go. Like that trip to Mexico, I appreciate it so much because I got to see my family. Right? Uh, and while we were driving, I got to be with you, you know, and, like, we have a Barcelona trip coming up. And I'm I I'm so excited for it, because, again, it'll be you and me. And then Miguelito and I will love to see Miguelito so excited to show me around because he's been there before. He absolutely loves Barcelona. So I appreciate, even though we're go, go, go. I appreciate all those times that we could slow down. Right. And like, really, uh, you know, I, I have a question for you so. Well, because obviously and we've talked about this on previous episodes, how we have traveled a lot of different places. Right. And we've, you know, we've taken our kids to Hawaii five times. They've been to Puerto Rico twice. They've been all over the place. Right. And we've traveled. And would you say that those the the trips that we take now, in that time that you said that you appreciate life now it feels like it's more appreciated now than then. You feel like now, even though, you know, looking back, it's not that we didn't appreciate it, but do you feel like they're worth more now than those trips? I do think I realize it more now. Not to say that they didn't, uh, mean anything back then or like I wasn't grateful for them back then because, like, I think when we took your mom to Hawaii, for example. Yeah. How she loved that and how she appreciated it. And she would talk about that trip all the time. Yeah. And so even though, um, we didn't notice it, maybe at that moment, now that she's gone, you appreciate that you were able to take her to Hawaii, that you were that we spent great time with her. She got to spend time with her grandkids and got to see things that she probably would have never, she probably had never seen before, which she hadn't. Yeah. It's once in a lifetime for her. Yeah. So I noticed those things now, especially now that she's passed. And, um, you're like, oh, I got to do something for her that she actually really appreciated. Yeah, I feel like, you know, there's times where because, like you said, we're so caught up in our daily routines. That people don't take the time to create the memories, you know, like that. That what you just said about my mom. Those are memories that they're worth millions. You know, there might not be millions of dollars in a bank account, but the the way she felt right when she went on that trip and we did that party cruise, remember where she was, where she was partying it up. And, you know, she you could just see the smile on her face. Yeah. You know, even on her little when she passed away, the little cards, you know that. Oh, that was the picture. That Hawaii picture in Hawaii where she was having a great time on that party cruise. She has such a great time. Yeah, she has such a great time. You know, I mean, you gotta remember where my mom came from. And if you were to look at the town where she's from and the era that she grew up, I mean, to her, the United States was like a dream, right? Like a whole new world. But then on top of that, taking her to an island like Hawaii that we went to, it was just, you know, the world. You know, she talked about that trip probably to the day she passed away, you know, because it was such a high highlight of her life that it was just incredible. So I think the memories that you create and I've always said that. And again, I'm not afraid to say that. Because I know it is true prior to her passing away. You always think she's going to live forever. And you take you do take them for granted. You do take your family. People don't realize this, and I know maybe someone is going to listen to this and say, oh no, I don't. But we do sometimes take people for granted that are close to us and we don't get to, you know, really appreciate them as much as we should until they're gone, you know? And that's why we gotta do it every day. Every time there's something I get together, let's do it. You know, uh, whatever. It doesn't matter. You. You want to call them? Call them right now. Because at one point, you won't have that option anymore. You know, I can call my mom right now if I want to, but she's not going to answer, right? You know, I mean, that that ability for me, for her to answer, it's just not there anymore, you know? So little things like that, that I know. Obviously, my mom's been passed now for, what, almost, um, eight years now, eight years. And so obviously there has been a lot of healing in between now, then and now. But yeah, those first few years, I mean, it was. And every once in a while, don't get me wrong, there is. A song, you know that. Just plays and you just. It takes you back, you know, and it puts you on that stage. But, you know, I mean, obviously, we know that it's, um, it's a healing process this time, you know? But yeah, I think those, those moments of appreciation for your. And that's why I wanted to. That's why I wanted to. Man, I, I told myself maybe I should be. I'm going to fix things, you know, with my mother in law. Cause you never know. Yeah. You know, and maybe, you know, like she's. We've joked sometimes because she says all I want is love, you know? And she says, and we joke about it. I joke about that all the time. We joke about that stuff that she says, all I want is love. All I want is love. All I want is for my kids to love me. You know what? Let's give her that. You know, let's give her that. Because you never know. You know, you never know. You know, the last thing you want is that person to be gone. And you look back and say, man, I should have, you know, I could have. She's not here anymore, you know, and I should have, you know. And so that's why, um. I think it's the first time I cried in this podcast. No, I don't think so. Uh, I don't know. Maybe it's okay. It's a crybaby, though. No, I. Trust me. Yeah, I I'm too. But anyways, um. But yeah, I think, um, those memories that we did and and like you said, even though it feels like your life is being pulled apart in so many ways, um, you have to embrace it and know that, you know, you're creating those memories and doing what you gotta do for the benefit of you and your family. But it's definitely been an interesting three weeks. Yep. What's the day? The 23rd? Well, tomorrow be a month. Yep. That your aunt has passed away. So a month. It's been an interesting month that we've had. And, uh, there was one time we did a week where we didn't record for the same reason. Right. If people remember, we couldn't record. We just didn't have it in us, you know, to to record and bring you guys a talk. Uh, but we, we would always do our best to to do that. Yep. So I guess in ending I, my cousin Roxy, um, had it in her eulogy. She said, I regret all the times that, um, I told you I was too tired or too busy, um, to spend time with you. And so think about that. Maybe next time, even though you might be too tired or too busy, maybe make some time, right? For somebody that's maybe looking for some companionship or. Or maybe, um, just to spend time with you. So I guess just remember that. Yeah. I think that's so important. Yeah. Because I think I do that all the time. I'm like, I'm just too tired. I'm not going to go see so-and-so or do this with so-and-so, but many of you can just take a little extra energy and just go do it. Yeah. Or if they invite you to go do something, you know, and you put it off. You know, that might be the last invitation. Yeah, that you could have gotten from that person. You know. So but yeah, I think, um. Good, good, good talk today. So from now on, everything you invite me to say. Yes. I know where we can go right after this. Oh my God. All right, guys. Thank you for listening. Thank you so much. See you next week. Bye. Bye bye. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Unfiltered Us. If you enjoyed this conversation, don't forget to hit that follow button so you never miss an episode. Would love to hear your thoughts, drop a comment and join in the conversation. If you think someone else will enjoy today's chat, go ahead and share this episode with them. Your support means the world to us. Until next time, stay real and stay unfiltered.