Episode 13 - Empty Nesters

We blinked… and suddenly the house was quiet. 😳 In this episode, we’re opening up about what it’s like becoming empty nesters way earlier than most. From adjusting to a quieter home to rediscovering ourselves (and each other) without the daily chaos of parenting, it’s been a wild, emotional, and surprisingly hilarious ride.

🎧 Tune in to hear how we’re navigating this new chapter, what no one tells you about early empty nesting, and why we sometimes still check if the kids are just hiding in their rooms. 😅

💬 Are you early empty nesters too? Let’s talk!
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Transcript

You're listening to unfiltered us, where we keep it real and unscripted. I'm your host, Susie, along with my husband, Miguel. Ready to dive in? Let's get started. Welcome. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Welcome, everyone. Episode 13 already. I know it goes by fast for sure. Yeah. It's exciting though. 13 episodes. I'm excited about this episode. You know, last time we were talking about how every episode was celebrated, and now it's 13 and it's just a matter of time before we're like, oh, episode 59, you know? So you're just gonna you're gonna continue to count each one. Uh, yeah. And then next year we do season two. Uh oh. Okay. That's how that goes. Okay. Yeah, I think so. So you you say you were excited about this episode? Yes. We're gonna be talking about our empty nesting. Yeah, that's part of the reason why we're doing this podcast, to be honest. It's part of the reason, too. I mean, to be empty nesters at such a young age. It's pretty awesome. Yeah, because I feel like most people don't celebrate this until they're like in their 60s. I tell you what, I know we talked about this. If, if, if this would have happened to us when we were in our 60s or late 60s, um, it would be completely different, I think. Yeah. I feel like the stories we're going to share, especially when it really be happening in our 60s. Well, I mean, you figure by the time and again, it's all a mindset and it's all how you take care of yourself and how you arrive at your 60s. Right. But, man, I think a lot of people at their 60s, um, you know, they're already so tired. You know, they they don't have the energy that we have. And again, this that's why I'm saying I'm glad that it happened right now at our age and not when we're in our 60s. That's correct. But again, there might be somebody listening that this is going to happen to them then. I mean, they might not obviously have the same. I don't know. I don't know how to say the same. I'll come. But you know, we never know. We never know. Yeah, we'll never know. Because we'll never experience it. This is our experience right now, right? Right. So, yeah, I think, um, you know, like I was saying before, I think part of the part of the reason why these podcasts exist was because we needed a hobby in a sense, you know, did I felt like, um, I felt like we were, like, stuck in a weird, like rut. Like it was almost becoming a little to. The same thing every time. Yeah. And I, and I love that we started the podcast because now it gave us something else to look forward to. Right. Right. That makes sense. Right. Well, for people and I know we I think I talked about this on like one of the beginning episodes on how the idea of me doing a podcast started like eight years ago. And then I had, um, a friend that we were going to do it together, and it didn't work out. We had some, um, misunderstandings on a couple of things. And then I thought about, man, I want to do it. And then I thought, well, I'll do it with my son. And then he ended up moving out. Right. And then it was just you and I. And it got to a point where you and I were listening to a bunch of podcasts and our conversations, and the car turned out to be, in a sense, a podcast, I thought. And then I said, you know what? Start in line or something. Yeah. Well, I mean, you're the first woman. I thought, oh, so you're the first baby. Um, the label went over my head and I said, okay, why don't I just do it? And I, I remember I brought it up to you, and I thought for sure she's gonna say that for sure. She was like, I don't want to do this. And you said, yeah, I'm down. I'll do it. I'm like, oh, shoot, okay, let's do it. Is that what you thought? Maybe I'll do it because you thought maybe we were just always doing the same thing? No. Um, no. Well, yes and no. Because I thought, man, that actually would be pretty fun, and I. And plus, I wanted something else to do, so. Yeah, it's just a yes and no. Okay. So where you want to begin? Right when Miguel moved out. So. Right when? Well, I feel like my dad's story, especially. I think we should start with my dad. What's your dad's story? Well, he's not the story, but I'm saying what, in a sense, like the empty nesting part of having my dad always here, like, you know. Right? I'm talking about when. When our son moved out. That's when our emptiness there started. But I kind of feel like my dad started even before that. It just became worse as we became empty nesters. Okay, well. Go ahead. I, I don't know where you're going with this, but go ahead. Well, my dad has. Okay. Go ahead. And my dad has been coming around for years, as we know. Like he always comes around. He comes around at least 3 or 4 times a week. Maybe sometimes. Right. Um, but he doesn't come through the front door. Yeah, he comes in through the back door, and, uh, he pops up out of nowhere, like, he'll just randomly be in our backyard, and then he'll knock on our back door. So the thing with my dad is that we don't really have blinds that cover. Um. Like us. Just like you. We have blinds or just stuck? Yes. We don't know how to use them. Apparently, they're like these blinds that go up from the top or the bottom. Like, they're just like these weird blinds, and we don't really know how to use them, and they're just a mess, so we always keep them up. My dad, you could see in the backyard all the time. So I kind of feel and it started even before, like we were like, we have no privacy. Like we always have somebody in our backyard. And so I don't know if you want to expand on that. Well, I mean, I don't know why he comes in through the side, I guess. I don't know how when that started, even I don't know. But he likes to come in through the side. So, um, how we know his home is because we are in our house, looking outside to our backyard and we see him, or he shows up at the back door and he just knocks. And so. Yes. And so he, um, there's been a lot of times where maybe Miguel and I. Want to be alone. And so say stuff like the cabin in the living room or the kitchen. I feel like we could never do that. Yeah. This is never going down, because I'm always afraid that my dad will randomly show up. Yeah, and he has. And that something will be happening. Mhm. And so let's just stay in our living room and our kitchen. Nothing ever happens. There's no excitement there because I'm always afraid my dad is going to randomly show up. And he always looks into our windows to make sure we're home. Which is also really funny because if he doesn't see us, he hangs out into the backyard until he sees us. Yeah, he comes up to the glass and he puts his face in his hands, around his face and looks like. And then he's like, tries to knock. And it's so funny because then let's just say he doesn't see us. Let's just say that after the gym he likes, especially come in the morning. Um, after the gym, we go to the grocery store wherever. He'll stay there for a while. And if he never, he doesn't see us for a while. He'll just leave. And then the next day he'll come and he'll be like, I was here for like an hour yesterday. You guys didn't. You guys weren't here. I'm like, dad, just call us. Like, yeah, we could actually let you in through the front door if you were to call us. But you hang out in the backyard in the sun. Yeah, instead of coming inside because you choose. Yeah. We did have a window, though. When he went to Mexico for, like, two months. We did have that two months. I know, I'm not gonna lie, it was nice. I missed my dad, but that was a nice little window. Or we didn't have to worry about what went down and nobody being in our backyard. Yes. So when we. I remember when he came back from Mexico, we're like, okay, okay, we're back, we're back, he's back. So he can't really randomly, uh. So moral of the story we gotta get new blinds. New blinds, or get my dad to get used to coming in through the front door. But you know what's funny about yourself, about the blinds, is that, um, we really don't in a sense that the way that our house is set up. Those windows, in essence, really don't need any blinds because there's really hardly any sun. That's correct comes through there. So we keep them open all the time. Um, a few of them are underneath the covered patio, and the other one is kind of being blocked by the house. Uh, it makes sense. And so we keep it. We keep them open always just because, um, you know, the light that comes in. Yeah. And I love the light. We don't get direct sun on the other side of the house where we have our, uh, formal dining room. Then that those windows do get, like, light coming in through there, but we're hardly ever on that side of the house. Yes. So, yeah. But, you know, um. It's crazy. Uh, well, like I was saying, being empty nesters prior to this story about your dad, what I wanted to say is how we adjusted to becoming empty nesters. You know, after Miguel moved out and, um. Yeah, your dad would always come through the side, right? Always. And then, of course, that became an issue. And we lived alone because we're like, okay, well, nothing. Nothing can go down here. At least Monday through Friday because he doesn't come for the weekend. Yeah, he does not come all weekend. And, um, but what I'm saying is, um, it was an adjustment, right? Trying to be, um, empty nester. I feel like even though, you know, our son lived with us after at least he moved out, uh, five years ago. And then Miguelito just moved out, uh, about six months ago or so. Um, it was an adjustment because I felt like, man, the house is empty, right? It's just you and me. Like, if you were taking a shower, then I was by myself. You know, there was no me and Miguel, uh, and vice versa. You know, if I was out on an appointment, it's just you at the house, you know, there's nobody here. And so there was meaning it was an adjustment. It took me, like, three weeks after Miguel moved out for me to realize. Yeah, he doesn't live here anymore. I remember one time we were going to the gym, and every time we would go to the gym, I would always hear him talking. And I remember one morning, this is like two weeks after he had moved out. I remember coming. We were going to the gym and then I, I was like, man, he's so quiet today. Like, I wonder if he's still sleeping. He's not talking, right. And then. And then right as I said that, my brain was like, he moved out and I said, oh, shit. And then I remember you saying, what? And I said, I was just thinking, how come he goes quiet? And before I even finished, you said he's not here. And I'm like, I know. That's why I said, oh, shit, I just remembered, you know? But it was an adjustment. It was an adjustment that I, um, I don't know, for you. Yeah. Probably wasn't as hard about this last episode. Yeah, but for me, it was hard, you know? And so I just want to remind people about that because it was. It was hard. I think I think it was for me, it was an adjustment for me to, um, realize just just you and I. That's it. Right. And then, of course, we do get them to visit us all the time. We have the grandkids here a lot and our kids a lot. Um, but yeah, we've been able to do some fun stuff while they're gone. Well, while it's just you and I. Yeah, we've had some fun. So, um, I mean, I don't, um. Yes. Like the adjustment for you was definitely a lot harder than me. And it's not that I don't miss my kids, but I, I don't know, I just get used to situations really quickly. Yeah. And so the day he moved out, I was just like, okay, he moved out. He's a grown up now. Like it's time to move on to my next phase of life. And so yeah, I didn't really think about it like that. Yeah. And I'm used to it now, though. I'm used to just you and I now, you know, to where when we have people come over and we love, of course, you know, when they come visit us, but after a while you're like, okay, what time, what time do you guys go home? What are you guys going to do next? What's your fun to do now? You know, uh, because it's like, uh, it's just weird. You know, I feel like sometimes you and me look at each other like. Are they going home anytime soon? Like I want my quality time. This is why they call it our time. Yeah. When people get to 60 some years old. Or was it the dating site? It's called Our Time. Yeah, because it literally is our time. But, um, yeah, it was. Let's, uh, let's talk about it is like that. Like we do miss them. But when they stay here a little too long, we're like, okay, time to go. Yeah, because we just want to be us, you know? But we love, uh. I just love it, you know? I got used to it, like you said, I, I, I love it, I love it. Now, um, I remember one time, I think just recently, I think this past weekend, um, there was something that was brought up. Oh, when you said, oh, I had cramps. And I asked you, are they cramps in my back? Right. And I said, are they cramps or muscle spasms? You know, and you're like, they're the same thing. Well I said it's a calamity. And you said, which was my situation, I'm like, it's a calamity. And you're like, well, that's not the same thing as a spasm, back spasm. And I'm like, well, I don't know. I just know it's the lumbar. No, you did say no. It's the same thing. Yes. And I felt it was the same thing. I just in my question to you was like, so you guys know. Hold on, hold on. So you guys know this is the conversation that goes on there. We literally there fight. I'm just fighting with each other I'm just giving you an example right now on this is what happens when we are alone. This is what we discuss and how we discuss things. So it's it it's conversations that really mean nothing in our world. Okay, so I had to prove the point that they're not the same thing. But that wasn't my question. My question was, how do you say I and I spasm in Spanish? You said they're the same thing and I said they're not. And then and then for a second I was like, hmm, maybe they are. And I'm thinking, no, because, um, Colombians are not spasms, but Colombia's are, Colombia's are cramps. And then I that's what I told you. I said, no, I said, Colombia are cramps when you get a cramp. And I know that's like I know they're different. I because I've had muscle spasms and I've had cramps and they're different. Right. And so I, I ChatGPT it. And then I was like, see, I told you now this is what ChatGPT says. Obviously cramps are somewhat of muscle spasms. Correct. So not. All cramps are muscle spasm, but not all muscle spasms are cramps. Yes. And so there is a slight difference between the two. But this is but it's pretty much the thing. It's it's the same. They just feel different. Yes. They feel different. I mean it's obviously has to do with your muscles and uh, tensing up. Right. But they're different okay. And so this is what I'm telling you guys. The conversations and the little disagreements that it was all fun, by the way. It was all fun. But we were talking to our brother in law, Carlos, and we were telling him how this is like, this is our life now. Yeah. I'm like, by the way, this is what we talk about because we had nothing else to talk about. This is the stuff that we, in a sense, are you and in in all in good, you know, fun. It wasn't even nothing bad or nothing that. But yeah, that's the kind of stuff that we we find something to discuss that really doesn't matter in the world. Be correct after all. Yeah, yeah. That's true. It doesn't matter. None of that stuff. I mean, whatever, but that's. I guess it's what you do. You you have. No. But just from now on, I'm just going to say, I mean, I have a I have a I don't know why, but I get so many calamities like daily on a daily. And, um, it says that it's from dehydration, but I swear I drink so much water and I even drink electrolytes and stuff like that to not be dehydrated, but. I don't know. I just got a ton of muscle spasms. Yeah, but they say it's because it's an overwork of a muscle, too, which is understandable because, I mean, I go to the gym Monday through Friday, and it's not like I do little workouts, like little cardio workout. I don't I do a lot of strain training weights. And so I could understand maybe why my back isn't too happy all the time. I need to stretch you out some more, I guess so. But hey, let's talk about, uh, the the incident with the gummies. I think this is something that hardly anybody knows. I mean, we've only told, like, a handful of this, but this story is hilarious. So. So it started with. So, you know, we McGill and I don't have never done any kind of drugs like whatsoever. No, nothing. Alcohol and hookah is the only thing that as far all we do as far as drugs, you can say. Yeah. And I don't even do the hookah. So I've never smoked weed. I've never done anything like that. I've never, um, nothing. Never ever. And so we went to a trade show that, like my best friend had had invited us to, and we went there for the purposes of, uh, because they, they also hookah stuff. Yeah, fine. Getting hookah stuff because they have, uh, it's called champs. If you guys are familiar with it and they have, um, alcohol and not alcohol. Excuse me? They have tobacco products, and they have, uh, hookah products, and they have cigars. And they also have a lot of, you know, uh, uh, cannabis products, a lot of cannabis products. And so we're at this trade show and we're walking around and we're picking up samples, and I pass by a table, I pass by a table, and I know they're giving away gummies, right? And they were cannabis. They had TFC, and I passed right by it. And I was and I, I turned around and you are getting samples of the gummies. So I'm like, okay, well let me get some too. So we picked up some gummy samples and we brought them home. Yes. Now, last time I did this, I had gotten a bunch of, um, cannabis products like THC products, like gummies and things like that. And we give them to a friend. Yes. That we know, um, you know, uses this stuff and, and and so I give everything away to my friend last time. So I kept nothing. And this time around, I came home and I put it all on the counter. And then we were going through everything. And then there was, there was some gummies and it said it was called, um. It was called God. God clouds or something like that, or cloud God, cloud God. That's where the gummies said, right? Okay. And then it says something like, I'll make you feel like you're in the clouds. And so I, I put everything. Mind you, we did not just get one sample. We got a ton of samples of it because there was different flavors. Right. I guess you wanted to try all the flavors. I thought I would I don't know why I was being adventurous that day, so that was like, what, a Thursday maybe? Yeah. Then it was right before Valentine's o Valentine's. That's right. That's right. I knew it was somewhat of a holiday coming in there. Valentine's day was going to be Saturday, and we got this on a Thursday. Yeah. Yeah. Right. And so we came home that Thursday was separated everything. Um, and I just put everything away. Right. And so here comes Saturday, here comes Saturday. And we were cleaning the house or something. We were. We were home alone. Yeah. It was early enough. It was probably like, what time? 1 or 2. Yeah. And, um, I, I'm in I'm in Europe here. Yes. I'm upstairs and I'm downstairs. And then I remember thinking, hey, you know what? We have nothing going on. Actually, we did have dinner. We did. We had dinner at 630 with my parents. We had dinner. That's important. So we had this stuff. So we had like six hours, 6.5 hours to go, and I. I thought, you know what? I was going to pour myself a drink. And I said, you know what? I'm going to take one of these gummies to see how they are. Right. And so I, I figured, okay, well, I've never taken this before, so I might as well take half. Right? Just to start. And I remember getting go going and getting a sample opening it. Taking it out and it was a tiny gummy. I mean, this thing was probably, I mean, even smaller than, like, a I don't know, it's a tiny gummy. And I cut it in half and I thought it was pretty big. No, no, it was not that big. So anyway, so, um, I remember you, you came down and I said, hey, I'm taking half of this. You want to take the other half? And you said, okay. Yeah. And we took it. Yes we did. Okay. Not reading the how much, how much milligrams reading what? What is it? Nothing. We just we just took it. We just took it. And we sat on the couch and it said it would take, like, 45 minutes. Yeah. To take effect. Yeah. It said something like, um, take it said take, take a gummy and give it 35, uh, 40, 35, 45 minutes and you take the effect, you know, or you feel the effect. And so I remember reading that and so I, I, I didn't take the full gummy, obviously I took half and I gave you half and we sat on the couch. We did. And and we were watching. Love is blind. Love is blind. Oh, yes. Oh my God. So as as I'm sitting down, they hit me first. And so I want to I want to start. As I'm sitting down I feel my eyebrows like right here are my eyebrows are I feel them heavy like super heavy over my eyes. And I'm like, what the heck? And then I'm like, oh my God. And then it came down to like, the side of my eye. And then it was like the whole thing from like, my forehead and my eyebrows. All of this part right here was like, down weighing on me, like on my eyes. And I'm like, oh, I, I remember I turned around, I saw you, and I said, oh, you feel that? Are your eyebrows heavy? And you're like, nah, I'm good. And then I remember I got up and as soon as I got up, oh, it hit me like I'm like, whoa. I remember thinking, oh my goodness, what is this? I'm like, oh, I feel like. I was high and I'm like, oh my God, what is this? Right? And I go back to sit down and I told you, I said, whatever you do, don't get up, right. Don't get up because it's going to hit you, it's going to hit you. And then I think you and then what had happened was that I text my best friend and I told her, um, we just took a gummy. And she started laughing because, of course, like, she knows that we just do not do that. And so she goes, you have to stay super hydrated. Oh, that's what it was. And then I told her, okay, so this is all happening while you went up. And then you sat back down and you told me, like, whatever you do, don't get up. But she had just told me, stay hydrated. So I made so I got up because I wanted to get some water so I could stay hydrated. Well I did, I got up and I just felt it like I thought I was going to tip over because I was so lightheaded, and I really did feel like I was in the cloud and like in a cloud. And so I'm walking over to this thing to get water and I'm pouring my water, and then I, like, hurry up to get back to the couch. And I could just feel it. I felt so high and I was like, oh no, I don't, I don't like this feeling. Right? And so you were sitting on the couch and I kept staring at you, you know, that that was after I remember prior to that, prior to that, um, I remember getting up when you were like, oh, it hit me and you're like, oh, I don't like this feeling. Oh. And I'm like, we started laughing. Like we just like we were laughing our asses off. Huh? I we didn't laugh until after. No, it was it was right there. Because that's that's when you said something like, um, you said something like, uh. Uh oh. I said, did we just get high? We're both cracking up. We? The the laugh attack came first. Yes. It did. Yes. Okay. What came first? It was me staring at you. Because I kept looking at the love is blind and they kept repeating it. And then I laid down next to you. I. We laid down together. Oh, that was after. Yes, that was after you. You remember different. You were high. You don't remember? Yeah, I remember. So I. We started laughing, and then you, um, you used. We started laughing, and then you said something like I said, they would just get high. And then you said, is this what empty nesters do? And we were laughing. And that's after we sat down. And that's when we were like, oh, we don't like this feeling like, like. And then I try to lay down and then that's when I. My head was spinning like. Like if we like if, like if someone has ever been drunk and obviously I've been drunk before and I can feel the whole room spins and the whole ceiling spinning, right. That's how I felt. And so I felt like if I stay laying down, I'm going to throw up. Like. Yeah. Like like when you're drunk. And that's when I got up and I told you, don't lay down because this isn't good. And it was obviously it, it got to a point where it wasn't comfortable. Where it wasn't. Yeah. Where it wasn't fun. It wasn't good. Um, and I'm thinking as this is happening, I'm like, I'm never doing this again because I don't like this feeling. I don't like the feeling. And then that's when everything slowed down. That's when everything slowed down. So obviously we have different effects of what happened. I remember getting up again because I'm like, I'm, I'm kind of hungry. And I went to the pantry and I grabbed the bag of chips, and I came back down, and I sat down and I started eating chips, and I felt like I chew on a chip for 30 minutes. I'm like, this chip does not go away. Like, this chip is like, if you were chewing gum, you know, like it never went away. Like you were like chewing and eating and eating and eating and eating. And the chip was not like crushing down enough in smaller pieces for me to swallow them, you know. And they. You said you had some other effects, right? No, I just felt dizzy. And then I remember asking you, is this what it's like to be drunk? Uh, because I've never had that effect. I mean, you've never been drunk either. Been drunk? I mean, I've been drunk, but I've never experienced. I mean, like, I've had a lot to drink, but I've never experienced, like, a whole drunk episode and, like, getting the dizziness and then having a hangover. I just don't get any of those symptoms. And so that's when I it's like, is this what it's like being drunk? Because I did feel the room spinning and spinning and I just feel super lightheaded and like if I was floating. If anyone's ever watched the movie Friday when, uh, Smokey and Craig, I think Craig is in his living room and, um, or smoke his living room and and they're high. And he looked at the little dog display thing that they have there, and he feels like the dog is talking, talking. And he goes, huh? He's looking at the dog like, you know, that's what I felt like you were saying something to me. I like, like if I, I saw you say something to me and I'm like, huh? You know? And that's. And then you, you started laughing. And that's when you laugh. But I didn't laugh at that time. And then I'm like, I didn't say anything. And I'm like, oh, I thought you said something. And so it was just so funny to me. So I kept watching Love Is Blind. Yeah. And I was looking at it and I kept I swear, I kept hearing them repeat the same thing over and over again. And I'm like, why do they keep repeating the same thing? It was like, I don't understand. They keep saying the same thing over and over again. I could not get my my head couldn't wrap around the fact that I kept hearing the same thing, like them repeating the same thing over and over again. Oh, I remember going back to when you were staring at me. I remember sitting down and eating chips, and I remember you looking at me, and I'm like, man, she's staring at me. I can see her from my side eye right here. And I'm like, she's staring at me. I said, if I look, I already know she's gonna say something. I'm like, I'm not looking, I'm not looking, I'm not looking. You were just looking at me like I can tell your brain was saying, like, what the f? Like what you said right now. Why did I listen to you? You know, and then so you kept seeing the scene of the show over and over, and then I happened to go to the bathroom. Yes, I went peeing. And when I went peeing, I felt like I peed for an hour straight, like I the time went by so slow, and I, I remember coming out and I remember telling you, did you see I just peed for like, 30 minutes and you're like, no. I'm like, yeah, that's what it felt like, you know? I mean, but it was. And this whole time I'm stressing out because I know, see, that just goes to show how responsible I am. I know we have dinner reservations with my parents at this time. Is now what, like maybe. And so I kept thinking if. If 5:00 hits, because I, I hadn't gotten ready because we had been cleaning the house. So I still needed to like, do makeup and hair and, like, dressed. Get ready. Yeah, yeah. So I and I knew the reservation was at 630. So I thought if I don't feel better by 5:00, I'm going to call them and tell them Miguel got sick and that we can't go anymore because. Amen on me. Because I didn't want to feel this way around my parents and and I need to give myself enough time if I know I'm not going to give myself enough time to get ready, then I really, really need to make sure I cancel with them, right? So I kept looking at the clock and I kept thinking, okay, it's two 230. You know, and then I would see and I kept checking, but I realized the time was going so slow because I was like, I would look at the clock at 230 and then I like, give myself some time like, oh my gosh, it must be like 4:00 already. And then it'd be like 245. It's like 31. Yeah. Like it wasn't even changing. And I was like, okay, okay, I still got time. I still got time to like, get better. I still have time to get. And I'm like chugging water because I don't because my friend said that. That's that's going to help me stay hydrated, stay hydrated, stay hydrated. That's why I went MP for so long and drank so much water. And so I'm stressing like you understand how stressed I was about. Like my parents catching me like this and going to dinner with my parents. And I kept looking at the clock and I kept looking at the clock, and the clock would go so slow. But then at the same time, I was thinking, okay, this is good, this is good because it's giving me time to like. Like, I get sober, I get sober. I mean, I don't know if that's the word, but, like, it's sober. You know, like to be able to. Yeah. And granted, we have never done anything like this, so we don't know how long that effect lasts or, you know, I mean, um, but we, we did ended up. Yeah. So, like, I kind of did, like, slowed down a lot to where I was able to, like, at least do my hair and makeup. And my parents showed up at our house like at six. They came and then we drove from here. Yeah. You drove? I drove 20 miles an hour. Oh my God, I swear. I kept looking at the speedometer because, like, I thought I was going so fast and I'm like, oh, I should not even be driving. But I felt fine, you know? But, uh, anyway. So I kept thinking, do my parents realize that something is up because we're just not like, I'm. I know I'm probably driving slow till this day. I wonder if they've noticed anything. And they know. Not only that. I get to dinner and I'm starving. Give you the. It gives you the munchies. I was freaking starving so much. Yeah, I had a steak. I had to call a Mari. I had, like, soup, soup, I had bread. Yeah, yeah. I was like, where is the bread? I know the food was gonna take, you know, obviously. But I'm like, where is the bread? Like, bring the bread. I was starving and we all had wine and then. Yeah, but we had a great time with my parents. It was amazing. We were done and we had a obviously we felt a lot better and it was a great time with my parents. Like, they they loved it. They loved the restaurant. And you know, which, by the way, you drove fine. You I think you you drove. I think it was just my imagination. Yeah. I'm. I'm. Yeah. You you. You didn't drive under the same effect that we had earlier that day. So people know that you're not at all like, if I felt like, like still up in the clouds, you know, I definitely wouldn't have drove. In fact, I would have cancelled. Yeah. With them. But I weren't on the got cloud. God, no. Not anymore. Yeah. No, I that's why I want to say that I want to I don't want people to think that you drove like that. I mean, you drove and came back fine. And then we came back and we were still somewhat like a slight headache. Yeah. And then getting, like, a headache from it. Yeah. So we, we go to sleep that night, and the next morning I wake up and I'm like, dang, that was a trip. It really was. I mean, not now. I know when people go, oh, they went on a trip, right? When they when they get high. It was a trip. Now I know what that means, right? So the next morning, I wake up, I come down and I'm like, what did we take? Like, I'm like, what? What was it? You know? And, um, I came down, I, I went and got another one of those gummy packages and I read it, and it was, um, thc something I forget, like, uh, the other stuff that it had in it. And then, um, it was a 30 milligram, uh, gummy. Each gummy was 30mg, and I remember ChatGPT in it, you know, like, uh, whatever THC and I forget, I forget delta or something like that. Forget what? What I think it was, though. Delta or something like that. I forget what, what deviation was or what variation. I, I don't even know how to say it. And it says something like, oh, it's the most commonly used type of THC for edibles or gummies. Um, and that most people, when they start, they should start with 1 to 2mg or something like that. And then we each took, in a sense, 15, 15. And so when we have shared the story with people who have previously taken gummies, they are like laughing and laughing their asses off. And they're like surprised and shocked that we took that much. From the very beginning, you know, and that's when they said they should have microdose, which would have been probably, I don't know, maybe taking that gummy and, you know, taking that half and cutting it in two more pieces or something. Yeah. Because that it was and that probably wasn't a good feeling. No it wasn't, it definitely wasn't. It definitely didn't make me want to do it again. Where where I don't ever want to feel that feeling again. I mean, and and there's people that, um, I think and then so we, we share the story. I share the story with my friend, the one that I had given them the gummies before. And he mentioned that last time I gave him those gummies that he had, um, given his wife one, and she took the whole thing. She took the whole and that. She said she slept for three days. Which I don't know how she slept because there was no way I could have slept. I felt I, I wasn't at ease and I definitely didn't feel like I could. Well, some people, uh, have a higher tolerance, you know, and it affects obviously people in different um, or with us. It was both of our first times doing it. And I just think it was way too much where, like I said, it, it it didn't give me the. Craving to do it again because I don't I don't want to feel that again. It was fun. It was it was funny at the beginning, but it got to a point. I think probably the highest right of the high was was not good. Yeah. I mean, it was nice when we had our whole laugh attack though. Yeah, that whole laugh attack was hilarious. I mean, that that obviously we didn't know that time slows down. So we didn't know anything about this stuff. And I just thought, man, okay, this is what we do, right? We're empty nesters, right? We we we do things like that. Yes, but that one for sure is the one and done I didn't I won't do that one again. Yeah, but in fact we gave away the dummies didn't we. Didn't you know. No, no there's I, I give them away. Um, I kept those gummies, but I gave them away. Everything else. Oh, okay. Like all the other stuff that there's been. There's. Whoever wants them. Hit me. Yeah, hit me or me. Go. Yeah. If you're if you're a pro and you know how to handle it, you know, we got some samples. Um, and maybe they tasted good, though. Oh, it was delicious. Flavor was actually really, really good. Yeah, but I it's just not for me. It it's just crazy how a a a small gummy even half of that is so powerful. I just goes to show, you know, like the concentration on that stuff. It really is crazy. And, and by them saying cloud gods, I mean they, they hit it right on the nail for sure because it was definitely up there. So but that's I think that's probably the craziest thing that we've done. Yeah, that's definitely the craziest, the funniest thing as um, emptiness as the empty nesters other than our kids sometimes walking in when you know things are going down. Yes. I mean, obviously they just, uh, nobody we didn't we didn't get caught. No, but we did hear the the door going beep beep, beep beep. Because they have every our kids have a code to get into the house. So you could hear a code being punched in when someone's about to open the door. When I, uh, made me go, you ran to the bathroom and I hid behind the Christmas tree. Not the bathroom. My friend behind the door. Oh, I went behind the Christmas tree. Yes, there was a Christmas tree. It was around Christmas time, and we were hanging decorations. And so that's what we were doing. We were hanging decorations and then, you know, stuff. And granted, nothing had started. It was just in the beginning stages. And so, like, this is why I said I'm glad this is happening right now and not when we're in our 60s, because we couldn't have been that fast in our 60s. No. So let me go. HID behind the tree. I hid behind the door. I just did my. Oh my God. My clothes. Really quickly. And like, if we're, like, in our 20s, that child just means like, oh, this is why it. Yeah, me. And I have no privacy. We gotta change that. I mean, I would love to, like, walk around my house with, like, the littlest amount of clothes possible. That would be amazing to me where I don't have to think about clothes, but that doesn't happen either. I support that. I don't know if they'll ever really happen, to be honest. Well, we gotta get blinds. We gotta put a lock on the side gate and let's see, we got to change the door lock. Yeah, exactly. Well, never have I can't do that to my dad. No, because, I mean, that would break my heart more than when he goes to Mexico and he goes to Mexico. Probably when we have the most privacy. Um, and obviously we can't change the locks or the. No. Yeah. Because our kids are very important to us. Blinds will do it. I mean, so that's I don't know. Do we have any other stories? I kind of know. I think that's still probably the wildest thing we've done. Um, as far as, you know, empty nesters. But I think it's an adjustment, you know, it's it's, um. I love it, though. I love the fact, you know, I hear you have a noisy, uh, nosy neighbor that has, like, a camera pointed towards our backyard. So even backyard, we don't have any private. Well, I just got out, you know, built around it. Built Build like a bar or something. Like to hide the camera looking. I put up the umbrella. Yeah. So to block his view from, you know, where his camera points to our backyard? Because I don't know. I just think even though it's not against the law because the camera is on his property, I still think somewhat is an invasion of privacy. But legally, he's not doing any one of his side. But if we feel like it's a very, very well it's a wide angle camera. It's a wide angle camera. So he catches so he catches catch part of our yard too. He catches where our, um, like where our spa is the, the the spa. And he catches that side of the house where you and your friends like to tend. Yeah. So that's why, you know, I like to I put the umbrella there to kind of block that view from the camera, but eventually we'll build something that will cover, um, his view. You know, so. But, um, I do, I did. Oh, you know, I was thinking about this earlier today because I knew we were going to talk about. In this episode. But the reason why I. We have friends that have kids. We have friends that are our age, that have little ones, like little like our grandkids and I, I, I couldn't see myself at this age having a child that young, you know, that's here 24 over seven all the time. And that's another thing about us being, in a sense, empty nesters. And we've been able to do this even before, you know, um, Miguel moved out, that at any time we just pick up and go, right? Yeah. It's also a very plus. And so we have that freedom. We have that ability to either have friends over if we wanted to. Right. Because it's just you and I, they come over, uh, we have some drinks or we get on the spa, we have some hookah or whatever. Um, you know, we we have that freedom to do that and not have to worry about kids, or we can just pick up and go and go to dinner, go here, go there. Because we don't have, you know, little ones. We have our grandkids every once in a while here. And this past weekend they spend the night, uh, which was awesome. Uh, but, you know, come the next day, they go home, you know, or Elena, Elena, spend the night. Well, prior last weekend was, uh, sahool. And then this weekend was Elena. But the next day they go home, you know, and so on. That aspect that we love the fact that we're empty nesters and we have just the freedom to pretty much go out and do anything we want. Yeah. Like us going on vacation at the end of this week. Right? And then we go on vacation and, you know, it doesn't matter. I mean, we have. Yeah. And, and and I do think I want to say to, you know, I. I love sometimes when. When I'm alone. You know, there's times where, let's say you have a nail appointment or, you know, you're, you leave for, you know, a couple hours like. And I stayed here at home. I love that time when I'm alone, you know, like I it's it it's, um, it's very therapeutic for me to be alone. And so every time that you leave, obviously there's no one else here. So I'm by myself. And I enjoy that time, you know, by myself. And I know there's times where I leave, I have an appointment or something, and you stay by yourself, and then you. I come back and you're like, I cleaned the whole house. Yeah, I love cleaning when you're gone. I just found that out. I it's because when you're here. Because my love language is quality time. Like, I like quality time. And physical touch is my love language. And so when you're here, I feel like I need to be next to you, that I can leave your side. So it's really hard for me to do something when you're here. So when you're gone and you have an appointment for a couple of hours or you know you have something to do, I'm like, perfect, this is my chance to do clean the bathroom or like, clean downstairs or do some laundry really quickly. I love doing stuff like that when you're gone. Yeah. So it might be therapeutic for you. It is. Yeah. I'm like, ooh, I did something. Yeah, yeah. So the fact that, you know, you, you, you leave for a couple hours and I come, you know, I get that time to myself or I leave and same thing for, you know, a few hours and I come back and that was therapeutic to you. I think that's that's incredible. You know, I, I really do hope that everyone that has. A family that has kids, right? If when their kids do grow and they move out, that they get to have that time to themselves to enjoy themselves. And and I know there's people out there that it's it's going to be a hard adjustment, especially if, you know, they both have like a 9 to 5 and they barely see each other and they come back only see each other at night. For them to have that adjustment to see each other 24 over seven, it's going to be a major adjustment. Yeah. And I also know of, um, couples that the husband works and maybe the husband travels. Right. And then when that husband is at home, it's almost like they can't coexist because they, they don't know how to adjust the time that they have throughout the day with one another. Yeah. You know, and so that's something that, um, it's going to be an adjustment to a lot of people, you know, when they but you and I have been together now for, um, a long time as far as I left my job, man. Almost 18. Well, yeah. No, 18 years, 18 years. It was on our 10th year anniversary. Yeah. You didn't go back? Yeah. And we just celebrated, what, 28. Yeah. So 18 years that you have left your job? Yeah. That we have worked together and done everything together. And now it's this is really now by us being empty nesters is really the first time in our lives that we've lived together on our own. Like, there's a lot of couples that get married, right? And they don't have kids for like 2 or 3 years and they move out and they or maybe they're dating, let's just say they're not married, but they're dating and they're boyfriend and girlfriend and they're living together and they don't have any kids, but they live together without kids, right? Yes. But for us, this is literally started six months ago is the very first time in our lives that you and I have lived alone. Just you and I. Yes. Because even when I had at least said that we lived with my parents. Yeah. Prior. Prior to it, was your parents always there? And then it was moved out with me, with your brother. And then we moved out on our own. I finally moved out, but with at least we had a baby. And ever since then, we've had kids here for 20, 28 years. Yeah, in the sense 28 years. It's, uh, last September. October? Yeah, 28 years. But, um, I love it. I, I think if anyone has questions on it, I mean, we'd love to help them out. If there are a couple that want to not learn how to navigate or if you have any questions on this, I mean, we'd love to tell you, but I mean, um, random talks. Yeah. Yeah, that I mean, we gotta we gotta work on that. What's funny is that we argued, but we're talking about the same thing a lot of times, and I'm like, I'm trying to agree with you, sir. Like, I don't. And then he still wants to, like, pick it. I'm like. This is us. This is our life now. Like, I don't know. He just says it's all good. It's all good. It's all fun. It's actually funny because it is funny about it. They even even even right here in these podcasts how we were like, no, that happened first. No, this happened first. No, this. Like, it's when you think about it at the end. It doesn't matter. But time frame is way off on on the I mean but that happens all the time. I remember and I don't know why that is, but I remember things so differently than Miguel. This is why the kids never tell. Let you tell the story, baby. Yeah. Every time, every time you have to repeat a story. The kids want to hear from me, which I don't have a problem with. But what's funny is that you look at me like you tell the story a lot of the times, and I'm like, thinking, I don't want to tell the story because I always tell the story, but because they like, I remember the details that the kids always refer. They have to hear it from you because they feel it's a little more accurate. But I just remember things differently. I can't help it. It's not that I do that on purpose. I just remember things differently. Yeah. Well, that's. I'm just trying to prove. So that's why I'll never tell stories. That's why if you ever hear me go like, oh, tell that story, I'm like, nope. You tell it. Yeah. No, it's not gonna happen for me. Yeah, because you always come in on this story. Like, that's not how it was. And I'm like, why don't you let me tell the story like it happened right here today? Just you tell the story. Yeah, but it was fun. So again, that was episode 13, Empty Nesters. We we're loving it. Um, if you guys need, I don't know, advice on this, let us know. We'd love to help you out. If you have any questions, we can answer them. So anything else? That's it. Love you guys. Until next time. Love you guys. Take care. Thank you for listening. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Unfiltered Us. If you enjoyed this conversation, don't forget to hit that follow button so you never miss an episode. We'd love to hear your thoughts. Drop a comment and join in the conversation. 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