Episode 11 - Social Media

Social media—it connects us and distracts us. In this episode, we’re diving into how social media has impacted our relationship, our mental health, and our daily lives (yes, including the power hour 😂). From DMs to doomscrolling, we’re breaking down the highs, the lows, and everything in between.

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You're listening to unfiltered us, where we keep it real and unscripted. I'm your host, Susie, along with my husband, Miguel. Ready to dive in? Let's get started. All right. Welcome. Welcome to a new episode of unfiltered us. Episode 11. That's crazy. You know what? Now that I think about it, we didn't even celebrate our 10th one. That was a pretty. I mean, to get to ten. That's pretty exciting. Yeah. You know, I mean, I, I, I just think, um. Episode five and then episode six and episode seven, and now is episode 11. So I think, you know, little by little, I think every episode is like a celebration to me in a sense, you know? Okay. I like that because, um, it's like, man, it's crazy. Now we I that's exactly how I thought. Episode of five already. Damn. We're done. Six of this, then we're done. You know, but episode 11. So I'm excited. Episode 11 to, um. What are we talking about today? We are talking about social media. Oh, the good, exciting stuff. The good social media evil of social media. Ah, yeah. You know, it's very interesting topic. Social media. You know, I know we have certain things that we agreed upon, social media. And there are certain things that, um, I don't know if we can say we can disagree on it, but we could possibly look at it in a different way. Okay, maybe there are certain things that, um, you know, you see it a little bit different than me, but, uh. Yeah. So how about this? When was the first time you got in social media, or how did you get into social media? Well, of course, Myspace, I feel like was the very first social media. So if you want to go way back then. Yeah, I wasn't always a big Facebook person and I'm still not to this day. Like, I don't know why I find Facebook so confusing, right? It just does nothing for me. So I'm sorry, I do have Facebook, but you don't have to be sorry. So I'm sorry. If you like, try to message me or anyone would talk to me on there because you will never get an answer because I just do not ever check my Facebook. I keep it open, mostly because if I really wanted to go in there and I look at my family in Mexico, because in Mexico, Facebook is the thing, right? And so if I want to see like what my dads are up to or cousins, maybe I'll go in there and like see what's going on with their lives. But no, but my so the next thing is Instagram of course is that that's your main one. That's my main one. Yes. Very much. Tick tock a little bit, tick tock a little bit. But I don't know if I have like too much presence there. I mean like I just go on there to look at stuff but not so much to. Yeah, you know, I get no love on TikTok. Like it's hard to get love on TikTok does not like my videos. I don't know why I get like, no views. No, I mean, compared to what other people get, you know? And I feel like even Instagram now, it's a lot less than, um, what you used to get before as far as views, you know, I mean, I remember there was times where I used to post a video on Instagram and I used to get 4 or 5, six, seven, 8000 views. And now it's, you know, 4 or 5, six, 700. So I don't know if it's more organic now, you know, or if before they were maybe pushing it to, um, everybody, I don't know, but I feel like I feel like I feel like Instagram. This algorithm is always changing so much. It's hard to keep up with it. all of them. All of them. I think the algorithm changes all the time. They definitely want you to live on social media. That's really what it is. It's true. They want you to be, you know, especially if you're some sort of influencer or you do business on social media. They definitely want you to keep up with their changes just so that you can live in it. That's the way I see it. But, um, I know for me, yeah, I, I think I did have a, um, Myspace. Right. And that was, that was kind of like the introduction to social media I always had. You had my number one. Just so you know, really, I honestly don't remember how it worked. Is that what it was? You had to pick a you had to pick a top friend like you had to rank them. Uh, I don't I don't consider that. No, I wish I could still log in. I wish, I wish I could still log in on Myspace and see the stuff that you did. I don't even know if I don't think that's possible that exist anymore. No, I think I asked somebody the other day and they said no, because we brought this up the other day and somebody said no. So if anyone's listening and they know how to get into it, let me know. I like to take a look at my profile and see if you were my number one. Oh, wow. You don't remember? I mean, I assumed I would be, yeah. No, I mean, I would, I would assume the same thing, but I just don't know. You know, this is so many years ago. This is, uh. Jeez, a long time ago. But anyways. Facebook. Yeah. And I remember I was big on Facebook and, uh, I remember, you know, for some reason, I think this was probably. I don't know, 2011 2012 when I figure you know what I, I this is me then, right? This is me thinking back then when it came down to Facebook because today I think completely different. But back then was okay. I, I spent way too much time on this. And I want people to understand that obviously we were in the process of building our business right. And back then we couldn't really post anything on social media. When it came down to business, it was against, um, compliance rules. And it's still somewhat a lot today. Um, but of course we approach it differently now. But I remember thinking, man, I'm spending too much time on this and it has nothing to do with business, right? Since we can't grow our business through here. And I made a decision to shut off my my Facebook, I think I shut it off for, um, a year for sure, or two years where I, I told people, um, hey, my birthday's coming up, uh, the day after my birthday. I'm shutting it off. I'm getting off of it, and I 100% focus on our business. And that's when our income grew so much because I was, in a sense, off social media. Then Instagram came and I got on Instagram. This is 2012, I think, when Instagram started. So it might have been 20, 2011 or so, and then I went 2011 to 2012, but I still didn't log back into Facebook. Then Facebook ended up buying Instagram after that, so it ended up being the same company. But I was off Facebook for years, probably for. Five, six, seven years. And it wasn't until maybe no, probably even more than that. It probably like eight years. I was, um, off of Facebook, and it wasn't until one of the guys on our team, remember, started saying how how he was getting a lot of leads on Facebook. He was getting a lot of clients through Facebook. And I remember logging back in, this is probably like five years ago or years ago or so, and I logged back into my Facebook after 8 or 9 years that I was off of it. And I remember I had a message which I didn't know there was such a thing as messenger. Now, now there's a that's the other thing that you have to download the app to talk to someone, which I find extremely annoying. Right. So now I don't want to have to download another app to talk to you on Facebook. Yeah. So I remember I got a, I got a message on Facebook through messenger, and I had to log in through messenger to see the the message. And it was something like a guy wanted to inquire about life insurance, life insurance. And uh, eight years later I texted this guy, hey, are you still interested? You know? And of course he was like, no, thanks. But, you know, hey, you never know. But yeah, I never since then has been Instagram for sure since I started. And that's my I think that's my most dominant one right now too. I'm not a big social media person though. I know you are. Like, I could go sometimes weeks without posting anything or like even on my story, right? Um, and then I come along like my feed. I won't really post on my feed so I, you know, I'm okay with, like, not being on it. Like, sometimes I even find it kind of. Draining because I'm a very optimistic person and people seem to like putting their drama on Instagram. Yeah. And, uh, or the people who get to like, pity party like pity me, like I don't. That to me, I'm not that way. Right. Like, I have a lot of stuff happen in my life that I will not post on social media. Like recently, my aunt passed away last week. Yesterday was a funeral. You would have never known I'm at a funeral because I just don't post stuff like that, right? You know? Um, I just don't. And you know, if you know me personally, you would know that about me anyways. You know, so the important people that need to know about certain things, about me, they just know it because they know me personally. Like I talk to them either on a daily basis or whatever it may be. You know, even when I'm sick, I do not post that I'm sick. Right? I don't need you to know that I'm sick. Send help. Yeah. So you won't get that from me either, right? You know, so that I. That's why I try to just stay off of it. Like I like to see what my friends are doing, especially, or something like that. But a lot of times you won't catch me. Uh, if you do see suddenly, like, post after post is probably because I'm doing something and people are posting me and of course I'm reposting them or I'll put something out there. Like for example, you know, me and my best friend will do something like, well, recently the Dodger game, and I'll post that. I'm at the Dodger game and I'm having fun at the Dodger game or whatever it may be, but that's that's when you get like a rush of stories for me. But then you'll suddenly see me quiet for a long while where I know you. Yeah, love. Like it's a daily, constant thing with you. And you love having conversations on social media with everybody that's on your story. Like you reply to everybody's stories, I don't reply, and then I do. I get all, actually, I get all my news from you because then you're like, babe, did you know what? Did you see this babe, do you know that Steph is doing this? Babe did you know? And I'm like, okay, you know, it's called keeping up with Current events. It's called keeping up with your with with your friends and the current events. And I mean, there are certain people honestly, this is one thing that I've gotten better at. Okay, I know that you said I reply to you. Okay. I'm okay. All right. Um, I know you said I replied to everybody. There's actually some people I stopped replying to. There's actually some. And this is something I started maybe within like two weeks ago. Because they send you nonsense stuff, you know? And I'm like, I'm not entertaining. And this is people that maybe I've maybe met once and all of a sudden, you know, or they, you know, which is fine, I get it right. I know them and we follow each other on social media, but it's not someone like, um, who would I put like my, I don't know, like somebody that I'm very close with, you know, like, I'll mention something like Dennis, let's say my friend Dennis, right? We send each other stuff, you know, every once in a while. But I know Dennis, I, you know, and and we think it's funny stuff. Right? But if I met you once or twice and all of a sudden now you started sending me reels or memes like, you know, like, if we're best friends, I. I don't have the time for that one. Does that make sense? I don't want to entertain, yeah I do, I started to pick and choose who I reply back to because, um, you know, even though, yes, you were on our phone 24 hours a day and even though, yes, I do keep up with what everyone does, I there are some things that I just don't want to get my head into. And I see what you're saying when it comes down to the drama and the pity party. You know what? I'll skip your story. I'll get out. That's not what I'm here for. Um, you know, and I have a few accounts, right? Like I have my business account. I have my personal account, my personal accounts, a lot of stuff about our family, our grandkids. Uh, you know, the Jim, uh, memes that I post sometimes, videos that I find that are funny and, uh, people that know me, that really know me and know my sense of humor. They laugh because they know which direction I'm coming from because they they feel like, yeah, that's Miguel. They would say something like that. That's a dad joke or this or that, blah, blah, blah, right. But I'm sure there's a lot of people that maybe don't know me as well that may see me post things like that. And they go, what's wrong with this guy? Why would he post that? Or they might even get offended, which I don't care if they do, right? Um, and on my my business one, um, that's where I post all my, my business reels and, uh, stuff about the company and, and my messages. I do my reels Monday, Wednesday, Friday consistently for a long time now. And that's where I post those, you know, messages that I post regarding about anything about business. But I think that's where we that's what that's the thing that I was saying. I think that's where not that we disagree, but we differ on the fact that I'm on it. Yes. And I post more often than you do. Yes, very much so. It's on, on, um, on. And even when it comes to like, our relationship. Yeah, I feel like. I don't need to constantly post you and see how I'm going to talk about that right now. How much I love you and how much you I appreciate. Like, uh, some people go way overboard with that. I knew this would come on, and I'm just not that person because you know that I love you. People that know each other, know us, know that we love each other. That's. And so I don't feel like I need to be like, this is. Yeah, the love of my life. And this is the one that I'm forever with. And, you know, I it's not. It's not me. Yeah, yeah I know, I know I knew this would come up. And I know we've talked about this before and, and what's funny is that. Yeah, the fact that I maybe don't post you 24 over seven doesn't mean I don't love you. Yes. Okay. And I don't take it a bit. Yeah. Yeah. Or or don't. Yeah. Or I'm sure when, you know, whenever you go out with your friends for a coffee date or you go out of town with Steph or something, right. Um, I'm sure people may say, well, why isn't Michelle there? Yeah. You know, or vice versa. If I go out with my son or like last, last year, I travel with my son to Barcelona for a whole entire week and I'm sure people go, well, why didn't Suzy go, oh my God, what's going on? Blah blah blah. Right? I mean, but if you would have known if you know us, you know that I just don't want to take a long flight. And I'm not constantly, you know, praising you and loving you on social media and expressing, you know, how much you do for me and how much you know, I mean, and I know there's people that do and and what's funny about this, for people that are listening, is that you and I had a talk one time in regards to people who do this constantly towards one another, couples, those are the probably the ones that are the most in trouble. Yes. I kind of feel like everyone we've seen do that is no longer together, which I find ironic and well, that that one, that one. But also people who consistently do that majority of the time have a rocky relationship like they. Um, and obviously, you know, I don't want to discuss specific people, but, you know, you can tell they're just not in their marriage. They're just not in a good place. Yeah. You know, and and they constantly have to validate one another on social media, which is so weird for me. Like for people, instead of doing it to them personally. Yeah. You know, like, for, like for people to, like, they paint a picture. And this is where I get frustrated. I don't get frustrated with social media on his own because I control it, but I control what I see and who I see. Okay. And there's a lot of people. Believe it or not, that are muted. There's a lot of people that I've unfollowed because I just don't want to see that stuff, you know? Because I know it's fake. Because I know it's not the truth. Because I know they're lying and I know that they're just putting up a front. Okay. Because, you know, the back. It's like a quote that I heard a years ago, and it stuck with me. And it said, when you know the truth, the story is different. And that's the truth about these people, right? So anyways, going back to what I was saying, um, you and I had a talk one time on like, man, we feel like these people that post these things, they're the ones that have like the most rocky or whatever relationship. And then now we see videos. We're not the only ones that think that way. Because now because there have there is a lot of videos circulating around on people talking about this. Yeah, they, they the most secured and the most confident relationships don't have to praise and glorified the other one on social media consistently, consistently. Right. Because let's say it's your birthday. Yeah. Or Mother's Day. Like just pass right. And I post you, um, you know, or something like that, right? I mean, and or if you go out to dinner, maybe you post a picture or something, you know, an event. Yeah, every once in a while. But every day, like, bro, like, you know, like it's a little much and it's almost like the influencers we see at the gym, which, by the way, we let's talk about that. Yeah. Because we I mean, Gail and I if you, uh, we're consistent gym people Monday through Friday. Right. Consistent now for three years, non-stop. Non-Stop. Okay. Yes. Miguel post his one picture every morning of him at the gym. But. There is people that we've seen, right. Come in with their cameras and tripods. Tripods set everything up. Mhm. I promise you, you see them do 1 or 2 reps to record. Maybe they'll go to another machine, record 1 or 2 reps to record and they leave. Yeah. They don't even sweat. They don't sweat. They don't stay there longer than 20 minutes. 30 minutes and they're gone. And I'm like really? And of course, a lot of the times you see their body and it is fit. But I think, man, it's just genetics that this genetics or plastic surgeon. Yeah. Yeah. Because there is no way they could look like that. Organic like through a gym. Just staying there for 2030. The way they by working out, the way they recorded themselves, the way they recorded themselves. So no, not when I see people like influencers on TikTok or reels, I'm like, man, did you really work? I don't trust any of them. Look, we were just watching the the the story about the Liver King, right? Yeah. And how he used to eat raw liver and which I love liver, by the way. Not raw. right? But yeah, I do agree with the health, um, big carnivore type of health system that he had, but he was asked for many years if he was using steroids and he was like even putting people down talking about how people were insecure. Yeah. Yeah. And people had low self-esteem and they wanted to go against them because he he denied it. And then some guy found emails and leaked his emails on how he was using steroids, and that how he got that big. Right. Right. And and the guy was a fraud. Yeah. The guy's a fraud. It's just like all these majority, majority of the fitness influencers on social media are frauds. And how do I know this? Because we see it. We see it at the gym. If you really are a person who truly works out, you can tell how, because they're working out, they're putting in the effort, they're sweating, they're in there an hour and a half, two hours, which there might be some out there. There might be some people, you know, that that do put in the work and do that, but it's very, very small. Majority of these people, men and women are. Plastic surgery modified or genetics. There are some guys that are just. I know kids that got six pack. Those are genetics you know. And so yeah, that that that to me going back to pet peeves that. So one thing, you know, one thing I was going to post the other day, I'm going to post it. And I was going to say, if you truly believe everything you see in social media, you are the Lulu you are. You're crazy to believe everything you see in social media because everything is so not everything but 90, probably 5% of the things that people post are not who they are. They're just completely fake. Really? You think that much? I think that much. I think, you know, I love social media from the aspect of man, I, I, I'm a big liker, okay? Like I like everything because and not for everybody. But when people post things that they've done achievements. Right, right. Kids I think I think if somebody took the time to post their kid on achieving something or playing something or getting a trophy or or something like that, you know, they they took the time to do that. I'm gonna like that. Does that make sense? I think there's some great stuff on social media. Very little. Right. And what I mean by very little is compared to how much content it's out there. It's more of the stuff that's genuine that people post, that it's true than what it's the opposite of it. And so I do like I'm a big liker, people who yes, I follow, people who I follow him to. Yeah. People who, who, who I follow. They know that they're constantly posting and I'm constantly liking their, their content because I think they're genuine posts and they're, they're good people. I, I'm more of a liker on your feed. Like, I'll go through feed. I'll go through more than the story, right? Yeah. I'm not a big lifer. I'm not that I watch the stories, but like, if you come up on my page, like on my feed, I'm gonna like every single picture you post. Yeah. Like, without. If I know you personally, especially. Yeah. I'm gonna like it. And I'll do my best to even make a comment, because why not? You feel confident in that picture? Yes. I love the way, you know, if you love that picture that I'm going to like that picture for you. Because that's how I feel. Why not? It was genuine. Right. And they took the time to do it. Yeah. And you know what? Maybe they didn't do it for the likes, but I think the light represents you appreciating. Yeah. What they did or how they look or whatever. Yes. Yeah. I promise you, if I did not like it because you didn't come up on my page like it's because I really missed it. I really didn't see it. Right. Which sometimes it happens, though, because there's times where I do come up to you and I say, hey, they just are like, oh my God, no, I missed it. Yeah, or vice versa. You come up to me and I'm like, how did I miss this? It didn't come across. It just doesn't like sometimes does just chooses for you. Right. Sometimes that does happen, you know. But if if I, if I follow you and you post something that is genuine, that deserves for me to like it, I will like it. I feel like I am that person every time because there's a lot of people you can tell. I mean, you can tell your story. You post this, you post, um, a story. And it was like yesterday I posted something, an achievement that we got for work. And, um, I don't know how many people saw it, but the likes, compared to the people that saw it was very small, you know, and maybe. Yeah, maybe, maybe they think different, which is fine too. I, I didn't do it for the likes. I did it more for the, um, uh, let's just okay, let's not talk about so much stories, but like, on your feed, I will never understand how you know someone personally. Like, if you do and they come up on your feed and you saw they posted a picture and you did it for a real to like it. Yeah. Real. Yeah. That's insane to me. Like what you saw. Yeah. You you saw. You didn't think to care to like, double tap on that. I mean, it takes a whole two seconds. I want that part I'll never understand. Like it's people. It's so easy to do. And especially if you know that person personally, you should be giving them a like. Right. Oh, it's a lot of jealousy out there. You know, that's true. And a lot of the times it's not what it um, it's not that they don't. They don't want to have what you have. They just don't want you to have it. Yeah, you know, that's what it is. But there's a lot of that out there. And, you know, there's nothing you can do. You just look at it for what it is or the people that just. Let's just say, if you ask a question like, you know, ask me a question or like a poll. Yeah, especially the poll, because the poll, you don't have to really think about it. Just answer yes or no or whatever a B, you know. How hard is it for you to just like, do it? That's the other part I don't understand. Maybe like the question sometimes it is hard because I always think if someone says, ask me a question and I always try to think of a question to ask them, and I'm like, I don't know what to ask you, I promise I'll come back to it or something. But I never do because I can never think of a question. But it's not because I wasn't thinking about. I was thinking about asking you a question. If it's from my personal page, I'm writing something dumb. Yeah. You know, I'm writing something like, like, super sarcastic or dumb, but if if it's from our business page, then obviously comes. It's like I have two personalities. Yeah, you do, but you know why? Okay, so that's me. All of it is me. It's not that, you know, I it's just one I dedicated and and, um, I mean, I do. There's a reason why I have to, you know, it's, um, I, I never wanted to have to, but I had to do it in a sense, you know, to be left alone. Uh, I had to have two Instagram accounts, and that's the reason why on one, I 100% focus on nothing but business. And on the other one, it's my. The stuff that I don't have, the stuff that I never had to post in my business page I just posted over here, you know, and ended up being that way. And there's some people that do know I'm not going to get into all the details on why that happened, but there's some people that know why I have to have two Instagram accounts. So that's really what it is. And I know you have to you don't really operate your business one, you don't really post a lot. Everyone said you just did something for Mother's Day two I did, but you separated it that way as well. I only do that because my mom follows the business one, because I won't let her follow my personal one. I forgot about that. Yeah, okay. So let's talk about that because, um, that's also another thing that's also there's so many people that I, there's a lot of people that are so judgmental, I cannot let them be on my personal account. Yeah. You know, because I think they. So I will block you and you will not see my personal account. Right. And you could go to the business account because everyone could look on there. I don't mind that that one is fine. But like when it comes to my personal account, I just there's certain people I'd rather you not see what I'm doing. Yeah, and it's not because you don't care, but it's just because you don't want to hear it. And and the judgment that comes from some of these. Yeah. You know, and that's what's so hard I think especially for us women. And maybe that's why a lot of times I just choose not to do a lot of stuff because I feel like, okay, let's just say I put out my dancing or twerking video or I feel like people are like, oh my gosh, yeah, look at what she's doing, right? She's a grandma. She shouldn't be doing that. Or her husband. What is her husband thinking right now? Like, I can't do that. But little do they know, a lot of times you're the one recording me, right? You're the one taking the pictures of me, right? So of all of you, he knows everything. And so, yeah, that's the other hard thing about social media. I think with women it's so hard because when some women can be so judge mental. Yeah, well, the truth is they're jealous because they wish they could do it, you know that. Yeah. I always say your haters are your biggest fans, actually. Yeah. And they just wish they can do what you do. And in a sense from, from a female point of view. And I know and I know, um, there's a lot of people that, you know, um, they judge and they, they say that. But the reality is, is if they had the chance and opportunity to be as free and as open as you or as we are, they'll probably do it. But they're they care too much about what other people say, you know. And this is why, going back to what we're talking about, there's so many things that people post on social media who is not who they are. It's because of that they live up. For certain image. They live up for a certain, um, acceptance. If the word that I can use from others, you know, and and they go and they quote all these, you know, whatever motivational, motivational pose or Bible verses so they can show the world that they're, you know, more holier than you or, you know, and again, that's just an example. It's not that, but, um, you know, it's it's all these people that you can tell they're opposed, especially when you know them personally. You can tell their posts, they're just not being genuine, you know. And I remember when our kids were growing up, I remember, you know, and they were started doing social media. I remember I said, look, I don't have an issue with you doing social media. Just post who you are. Don't be. I don't want to see my kids posting something that they're not. You know, I don't want to see you posting a certain person on social media. And then when people meet you in real life, you're someone completely different. No, you are who you are and you post who you are. Is there some things you don't want to post? Great. Don't post it. There's some things I don't post right? I don't want to post it. This is us. This is our family. This is stuff that we're doing. Or if we're hanging out with people and the world will need to know that. Yeah, I don't need to post everything either. There's more that I don't post, that I do post. Uh, but there's some stuff that we do post that some people just don't see it the way we do or that we see it completely different because we know the real truth. Yes. So yeah. So again, people will hate. You know, we can talk about it all day long. You know, that's really what it is. You know, but again, going back to the the fun of it and the part of it, I think in the social media is a great tool. You know, it's a great tool where you can meet people. There are some people in there that, uh, honestly, I don't even know how. You know, we maybe had a mutual friend. Yeah. It's crazy how people follow you. Yeah. I mean, you mean like. Like in general. Yeah. People follow you and then. Or how sometimes you end up following people that you don't remember. That happens to me all the time. You're like, babe, who's this? And I'm like, I don't know. It's like you follow them. I'm like, I don't know, because I am. I am horrible at following people unless I personally know you. And I did it right in front of you, like, yeah, right then and there, like, hey, you follow me, I'll follow you. Type of thing. Right? Like, I'm great about exchanging it quickly like that. But if if you follow me and I've never met you or I'm not the greatest about. Unless I see that you're maybe in the business. Yeah. Because you know that I just do that because you're a fellow, you know, like person that we do have business. A colleague, yeah, a colleague or whatever. But as far as, like. Is the random person. Yeah, I'll never follow. And then let me go be like, who's I don't know and I don't know because they end up following me. Yeah. Right. Maybe you post it or something. They follow me. And and when I see that, people follow me and I'm like, babe, who's this? And you're like, I don't know. I said, well, it's just right here. You follow them. They just started following me. So I want to know you know them, you know, and there's some like today I got a I got a person from um, I think I think this person is in, in our business. Um, the follow my personal account, and they need to follow my business account because I don't know them. They can see. But, you know, if his business is just follow my business, you're going to get. Trust me, you're going to get more from my business account if you're in our business. And you would in my personal account. Yeah, I promise you, you know, because that's where my value is at. My value may not be so much other than lifestyle. Yeah. On my personal account with my grandkids and whatever things. Um, but my business account, which, if you're not following it, you should, because that's where the value comes from. So, do you feel. I'm just going back. Do you feel like you've met a lot of great person people on your Instagram first before. You know, like when you ended up meeting? Yeah. Yeah. So I'm glad that you came back to this. Um, yes. Because I saw you fell off track. I'm like, I'm gonna bring him back. I don't really know how. We just go. We just go. If we turn left, we turn left. If we turn right, we turn right. You know, uh, but we go together. Um, yes. So going back to that, there are some people that I. That followed me or that I come across and I'm like, who is this person? And I see he's followed by a few people. Okay, let me follow him. Right. And then somehow, someway, we end up becoming like, uh. Or maybe I just met him once. You know, maybe we went out one time and they happened to be there, and or there may be friends or family of another person, and we follow each other. And I feel like we become, like, super good friends on social media because you know that they like your stuff or they like what you post and they comment on it and or they make a joke about it, right? Or something like that. You can tell it's genuine, right? And then you, you, um, you know, return the favor and all of a sudden you're like, bro, I've, I've never met you, but I know you so good. There's a lot of people. There's, um. Yeah, that I've never met. Yeah, but we have great conversations. I'm like, I've never met you, but it'd be nice. Maybe. Hopefully one day. Yeah. And that's what I mean by you. And that's what I mean by is a great tool to to, um, to have, you know, friendships. Yeah. Even though they're, you know, uh, you can call it, you know, social media friendships, they're I think they're, you know, they're entertaining, they're good, you know, relationships to harvest and, you know, and hopefully one day we'll meet. Yeah. Like today I was texting somebody on social media that I honestly have never met personally, but we've met through social media. And what's crazy is that I've sent this person referrals for their business and vice versa. But we've never physically in person met, you know, is okay. So I have a weird question. Do you ever feel like if you met this person in real life, you know, like this particular one that I'm talking? No, no, no, just in general, like anybody that you've had a relationship with on social media that you've never met, do you ever feel like if the day you met them, they're not how you expected them to be, that it'd be like this weird letdown if if they're not the way it's almost like having a fantasy and then it happens, then you're like, oh, that wasn't what I expected. Yeah, I mean, yes, I mean, if if they're not and I know we talked about this, right? Like if you ever meet this person and for whatever reason they are with the nasty attitude or something. Yeah. Um, yeah. It's going to be a turnoff. That's going to be your dream. It is. And so if that's ever happened to us, though, like when we met, uh, someone after we. Yeah, it was a weird one. I can. Okay. Yeah, I can think of. I can think of a couple that we met that likes us. Yeah. Oh, okay. Okay. Yeah, I can think of one that we met and it was. I didn't like, um. It was a couple. Yeah. And. Oh, I remember them. Okay. Yeah. I just didn't like the attitude of the. Yes wife. The husband was super cool. The husband was super cool. And it would have been someone that I would have probably hung out with. Hung out with? Yeah. Um, but the wife was the one that kind of was like, uh. Yeah, she was a little weird. Yeah. I'm not too sure about this one. And. And you could never see that. No, you could never. You could never see that. In fact, we talked about it afterwards, and we thought maybe her husband runs his her social media because she's a little weird. Yeah. And I think we met them a second time. Yeah, yeah, we gave it another shot and we went out for drinks again, and it was the same thing. Yeah. And then they wanted us to hang out with them more, and we're like. And we're like, we're busy, you know, because of that, because of the attitude. It just wasn't there. You know, it was something that, um, maybe they picked it up. They never reached out again. But, um, but yeah, I think it would be it would be odd. I mean, it has been odd. It's kind of like a turnoff, but I think on certain people, I think if you. I think the longer that relationship goes as far as back and forth and messages, um, and you see what they post and they see what you pose, right? You can learn a lot by a person, hopefully seeing the things that they do. And so when you meet with them in this particular one that I'm talking about from today, I think this person would be who they say they are. I think they're genuine, you know, good family people and so. Well, you I, you used to follow my best friend before I even met her. Are we going to talk about that? No, I want to leave that for her podcast if I ever get her on. That was my friend first. For the record, when this comes, you followed her for different reasons. I know it was friendship. Yeah. For sure. It was, you know. I mean, what do you what, do you just follow people? You know. But anyways, um, but, yeah, I think I think there are some good, good tools that you can come out of social media. I think, you know, when we talk about business, I have some people that have become my clients through social media. Right. That I never met before, and I became clients. And now, of course, there are clients and they follow, but they, you know, and this is before I open my business account where they only follow one account. And I was posting everything business and personal is really more business on my personal account before, uh, I opened up the second one, but now they get to see, you know. Yeah. And luckily they're, you know, they're not judgmental people, and they know that what you've done for them has helped. You know, what I also like is, uh, say that you've met. A person one time. And then you guys follow each other, and then you guys start having conversations with each other, and you start following their stories and like. And then when you see them again, it's like the greatest. Yeah. Friends. You're like, oh my gosh, great seeing you. It's so nice to see you like oh. And then they talk about our grandbaby and or we'll talk about their kids and like and it's like oh it's so nice. It's I like it's the greatest feeling. Yeah. Yeah. You know what I'm I'm a big congratulations to on on when people do things. And I think that's um, because you're not hating, you know, like, uh, especially with family, you know, like, we have family that live out of state. And if they bought a new car, if they bought a new truck or if they something, you know, I'm I'm the first one to say, man, I love it. Congratulations. Or something like that. Because number one, you do your I really do. But I know it means a lot to them as well too. You know, when you do something like that. But uh, yeah, I think that that is a great point where you say, as far as, you know, meeting someone, and now all of a sudden it's like you've known them forever. Yeah, but you just kept up with what I think of us or where we bought our car, where I bought my Tesla. Mhm. It was a couple. So this couple owns this dealership. Yeah. Very nice. And so they sold us our Tesla and um right then and there we started following each other on, on social media because the wife. Yeah. Me and the wife because we got along so well. Right. Um, it was genuine too, because she was super sweet. You know, you know how you just get that vibe, like, I like this person. So we just started following each other on social media, and I started seeing their lifestyle goals. Oh, my goodness. I told me, girl like. Yeah. If I ever want to live someone's life. It's this couple. Yeah. Very nice couple. Two, though. So humble because. Very humble. When we met them, I would have never guessed that this was their lifestyle. Like, never in a million years. Because they just seem so humble, like they were running their dealership. But these people travel and we got to meet them one time afterwards, after we had been following social on social media for a couple of years, I think, or a year later we met them again. We had brunch together. Very nice couple, very nice couple. But I promise you their lifestyle. Yeah. Something I've never been granted. We know multi-millionaires like you and me. Like we've been around them for a long, large portion of our lives. Like we know people with money, right? And I follow those people on social media. Mhm. And. That even those multi-millionaires that we know do not have a lifestyle like these people. That's like they don't they go to places that I've never even heard of. Yeah. And when I tell you they go VIP, like VIP, they go on like first class, like where you sleep in the bed, they come. I mean, the whole. Yeah, man. And I love it. And I look at that and I, I don't hate I freaking love it. And I let her know I love it. What's crazy about this is that I remember when we met them for a brunch. They said that they do this once a month, you know, once a quarter to quarter, once a quarter, once a quarter. They take the lavish trip, they take a lavish trip. So this isn't like a oh, they took we took a trip back in like although yeah, no, whatever. They do it like every 3 or 4 months. Every three months, but I. Yeah. Now lately it seems like they go every other month. Well that's why I thought it was every month because it's very consistent. It is so consistent. Yeah. Well I love that. I love see, that's the kind of stuff that you look at that it's on social media and you have to appreciate I and that you admire because at one point, maybe you want to live that lifestyle. So instead of hating it and seeing it and not liking it or not congratulating them, it's the opposite of that. You know, for people that are listening, you'll never you'll never have anything in your life that you resent. No, anything. You have to be able to love what other people have and what they're doing in order for them, in order for it to universe, to reverse it back to you. Yeah. And when we talk about these podcasts, we've gotten, you know, and I've shown you right, messages that we've gotten from people on how they listen to our podcast and they're like, man, I can relate. I can relate to your story. I did this or I did that, or I love what you said this. I love what you said that, or at this point of view or that point of view. And that's what we're talking about right here. It's it's this is a relationship podcast and the stuff that we do. But at the same time, you want to be able to have some sort of improvement, right, by, by improving your life. And, and if social media is in our. Lives 24 over seven. You want to be able to deal with that? It doesn't control us. We control. I control social media. And by the way, we're on our phone 24/7. But I catch myself and this is the difference today versus then where I knew was controlling me. Because today I'm like, okay, that's too much. And I call it. Do you? Yes, I call it Power Hour. 001 hour. Yeah. That's how you need our you need. That's all you need. You know what? I am not jealous of stuff. But I am jealous sometimes of yours. You know, that's my work. I work on my phone. I work on my phone. I'm working. So power hour. You don't believe me? I just think it's funny that you say hour. That's all you need. An hour to reset power hour. You know, and how I got this hour when I worked at Home Depot. They. They used to dim the lights, right? To conserve energy. Okay. They used to dim the lights in the store for one hour. I think it was one hour every 12 hours. The the story got really, like low light, very dim, almost like if it was, like, big cloud came over, right, and covered the light. And they called it Power Hour. Did they dim the lights to save energy? And so that's where I adopted that from. Well, it works. It does. And so I call it Power Hour. So I put myself a timer and I put myself an hour. And I get off my phone and I go do it, you know, but there are times when the kids are here and we're off or whatever, right? So there is more times that I'm off of it in a sense too. It just seems like I'm always on it. But I'm working, okay? I'm working. Babe. I'm working. Yes, sir. Yes. I don't even know if you believe that one. Uh, I do. Okay. Anything else we want to wrap this up or anything else you want to talk about. So I think we talked about a lot of things I think we talked a lot about. But you know what? Okay. So for people who are listening, right. And I want you guys to understand that it shouldn't ruin your life. Right. And there's people who they I think they get off of it like all these people that said, I need a break, I need yeah, I need 30 days. Understand that? I don't get it. That that tells me you allowed people. Well, you're allowed to control your life. Yeah, well, people, because the social media itself doesn't do it. The app itself doesn't do it. It's it's the people and yourself that you allow them to control your life. You didn't mute them. You should mute them, right? If you don't like their content, maybe you know them and you don't want to seem rude and unfollow them. Um, mute them. You know, their stories don't get on and you don't have to announce it. I don't have to say it because, you know, we're going to miss them. They have to say. Because the other thing, I'm like social media. I'm 30 minutes, not shut up, you know? Yeah, just get off of it. Like, yeah, if you really concerned about me or you really want to talk to me, then just text me. Text me. You know me. Yeah, yeah. No, I just think you you you have to be able to have the power to control it. Yeah, and not control you. Yeah. And I feel that that's where I'm at right now. I don't, I don't I can control it. I'm on it a lot but I, I control it. It doesn't have the power over me, I control it. And that's where you got to know, you know. So but I think it's a great tool. I think it's a great tool. I mean, don't believe everything you see in there. Um, you know, not everything. 95% of the stuff is a fraud. So. Do you say that? Like every individual. Or like. No. No. And I don't mean so much for the people that follow me. I just think in general, even even some of these viral videos, because I kind of feel like you saying that you're saying you like 20, 95% of your content. No no no no no no no. What I mean by that, and as far as in general, 95% is is a fraud. And I'm not even talking about the people that I follow, okay? I'm not even talking about it because I would never be following like social media, social media in a whole thing. Because if you get on TikTok, let's just say you're going to come across if you're on the For you page, you're going to come across content from all over the world. Yes. So and same thing on reels, right? Unless you're on the people you follow, right. Those are going to be your close friends or your friends, your friends that you follow. Right. But I'm talking about 95% in globally. Okay. I just want to make that point. Yeah. I felt like you saying that. You're saying like 95% of stuff. No, no, no, no, I mean, there are people you follow that, you know, um, whatever. Maybe they they just, you know, um, are not 100% on that. But no, I mean, in general, as far as the whole global thing, because even some of these viral videos, they're staged, you know, they're staged. None of this stuff, some stuff happens like you're like, oh my God, that was funny. But a lot of these things are staged. They're they just do it for cloud and they just do it for. Yeah. Or I mean, we could start talking about too about the food critics. Oh okay. Good. Finish that. Okay. You know how many times I tried food from the people? They're like, oh, go here. It's so delicious, you know. Yeah. Oh yeah. No no no no no no no no no no I have yet to find a place. Where an influencer went that I actually like the food, like where they went and they're like, oh, it's so delicious, you should try this. I go disappointed every time. Yeah, I don't trust okay. When it comes down to foodies, 100%. I do not trust because how do they know what I like? I don't like that soggy ass pizza, right? I mean, I like this pizza. I don't like that one. And now you're gonna have me go to this other spot because you liked it. And we've gone to places where people pose and they're just great at making content. That's really what they are. Yes. And they also get all these free food. And so these days, most of the time, a lot of them are overweight because all they do is eat. I've never seen a foodie that's a fit person. They're always somewhat, you know, overweight. And I know there's people that I follow that are foodies, but I don't trust them. Besides the point. No no no no, it's not because these people, they know that they can figure it out a way that they can go try all these restaurants because they have a large following. That's how they do it. So they can get free food and then return. They make a video and they post the content so people can go to that restaurant and get more food and obviously benefits the restaurant. No, I mean, but it's besides the point that they're overweight. Yeah. No, there's no there's got to be a point to that. You gotta I've never seen one. Have you seen. No, no no I haven't either. I haven't either, but I feel like that's besides the point. Like it all ties into it. It all ties into it. It ties me, I feel like. So. Yeah. I don't trust foodies. I don't trust them just because I know they get free food. Yeah. No. And then they post. I was talking to this guy at the gym and we were talking about this this. Right. And he told me he watched a certain person. On social media. If I mention the name, people are going to know who he is. And this guy claims to not get free food, that he pays for it. Okay. And, um, he said his guy went to this pizza place and he tried it and he said it was delicious. And so he gave his honors review or whatever on social media. And this guy from the gym, he goes to this pizza shop. Now, this guy single lives by himself, right? And he said that he spent $80. He goes, I had no business spending $80 in food just for me, but I wanted to try all this stuff he bought. I said, how was it? He goes garbage. It was terrible. And I'm like, that's what I'm talking about. That's what I'm talking about, right? Majority of these foodies, they're always going to say good things about the food there. Exactly. They're never going to say these. This tasted like shit. This isn't good. Don't come here every once in a while. You might see somebody like that, but it's probably because they didn't get hooked up. Right, but I don't. Let me put an example. Like so we, I was invited to a restaurant and then then we were also invited to another restaurant. They did give us free food. I did post it, but I promise you it was delicious. So one of the places was Zales. Mhm. Um, and we've been back countless times, even though they paid for our very first meal. So forgive me out there and see, but I even had me go like when they first invited us, that it's going to be hard for me because then I got put myself in like that influencer thing, like it's going to be hard for me to say. It was nasty if it was nasty because they paid for my food, right? Thank goodness it wasn't nasty. That place is absolutely delicious and I highly recommend it. Yeah. Um, but there's a difference, though. There's a difference on what you're saying right now versus what these people do. That's not your cup of tea. You're not a foodie. Even though we go out to eat all the time, and we can tell you some great restaurants that we like and some that we don't care for. We don't post it as foodies. We go out to eat. We might post a plate of our food, but we don't say, oh my God, I'm gonna try this place. And it was so delicious and cheesy. We don't do that. So when they reached out to you, it's because you have a large following of people and they knew and they asked. We'll come to you your meal, and in return, we just ask for you to put together a video and put on social media. So that to me. But do you agree that it would have been difficult for us if it wasn't good to say? Okay, so here's the thing. Because they used compas, right? You still would have. Okay. The the the content that you put was not a foodie content. It was showcasing the restaurant and what we got. You didn't speak on it okay. As like a foodie, right? I think if it would have been where the restaurant wasn't as good, you probably would have still done the video, but we would have never gone back and we would have still had input. This restaurant was horrible. Makes sense because we're not food reviewers. I don't know what you like. You don't know what I like. Yeah. Make sense. And so I think the content still would have gone out and you still would have tagged them and they would have reposted you and all that stuff. But in a sense, you're not like saying, like what these guys say, that's like the best in the world. And it's nasty. That's true. You see what I'm saying? So that is different. They reached out because of the following that you have, which you have a lot of followers. And so that's why. Does that make sense. And so it's different these guys. Knowingly whether they get free food or they get paid. They knowingly know that that's how it works. But they they're going to make you go broke. Foodies are going to make you go broke. If you follow a bunch of these foodie people, they're going to make you go, bro. It's the biggest scam there is out there. I have a hard time with all of them. So to me, 100% of them, I don't trust them. Yeah, I mean, I wish I could unfiltered sometimes the food looks so good. No. Yeah. And if you're a foodie and you follow me and you're listening to this and you have an issue, hey, you know what this is? I don't I don't follow any food. No, I, I, I, I, I don't either, I don't I, they just sometimes come up if I'm on TikTok I don't go, we've seen it. We went out to eat one time. Yes. At a restaurant. Yes. And there was a table. It happened to be like a foodie night. Yes. Where they had a table of all the influencers that we see. And we know one of the girls, yes, we had all these people there and they were just bringing them stuff and drinks, and everybody had their lights and their phone and recording, and they had their little. Right. The food wasn't good there. The food was. The food was not good. And because I was eating the food, I'm like this. This is so gross. Yeah. And I guarantee you, if you look at the video, they tried the same thing that we tried and the same drinks that we had, and they said it was the greatest shit in the world just because they got free food. Yes. No. Sorry. 100% fraud. Yeah. To me. So anyways, it's funny because my nail girl always says you should be a foodie because I actually like all the places you recommend me. And I'm like, I don't think I could do it. I did ask one restaurant that we frequent a lot if I can get some some free food because we send them a lot of people. There's a lot of last time they did kind of hook us up, though. You have to admit. Yeah. Well, I mean, it was. Yeah. Yeah they did. So but yeah. And they and they're in that restaurant. They they adore us. Yeah. We were, we were, they were regulars there. Yeah. The food is amazing. It's delicious. And we said every person we refer that go there, which every person, every person, they they end up loving it. So you know what? I'm going to be that type of foodie. I'll just recommend it to you. It's I don't have to put a video. It's called a Mexican restaurant. If you go to the girl and Susie sent you, they actually would know who we are. Yeah. And and and you gotta go try it. It's. You gotta try it. If you love our chili. Our best at what you love. And they're great, great people. We know the owners. Great service. Great. Everything great. Um. Great spot. You know, that's one place that I will for sure. Um, recommend. Yeah. And again, I'm not getting paid for this. I don't get anything from them. I'm not a foodie. You know, I like what I like. I don't know what you like. Yeah. So. And this was a great topic. I think we went over. But, you know, time flies when you're having fun. That's true. Thank you guys. We love you. Love you so much. I love you too, babe. Have a great day. You too. Bye bye. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Unfiltered Us. If you enjoyed this conversation, don't forget to hit that follow button so you never miss an episode. Would love to hear your thoughts. Drop a comment and join in the conversation. If you think someone else will enjoy today's chat, go ahead and share this episode with them. Your support means the world to us. Until next time, stay real and stay unfiltered.