Episode 4 - Q&A

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Episode 4 - Q&A

 You're listening to unfiltered us, where we keep it real and unscripted. I'm your host, Susie, along with my husband, Miguel. Ready to dive in? Let's get started. Welcome to episode four. We decided to do a question and answer session, and, um, you know, we're going to always going to be looking for questions if people have questions right in regards to anything more than happy to answer them. Yeah. Any questions that they might have throughout any of our episodes that we're going to be recording? Uh, feel free to send them in or, you know, uh, DM Susie or DM me and ask us questions or DM the the the page, you know, the Instagram page. So. All right. Well, let's get into it. Let's answer some of these questions which thank you guys again every person right. That submitted a question. There was a lot of them 14 questions 14. That's not bad. That's not bad. That's actually really good. So I'm super excited about that. We ran it like last minute. Yes that is true. We did run it last minute in an update. We did have our third grandchild. We did £6 13oz. Yes. And so our name is Miss Rio. His name is Rio. We're super excited for him. And, uh, he's just an adorable little man. I feel like he's going to be the tallest one out of all of our grandkids, because if you look at his fingers and toes, they're long, and he was 21in long. So which is a lot for us because we're always pretty short people. Hey, only time will tell when he'll be five eight, which is really tough for us. So our family keeps growing. You guys. I mean, the story keeps getting better. Yes. So let's get into it. Let's talk about this, uh, questions that people, um, send in. Are we saying who sent in the questions I will keep when I wrote them down, I didn't you didn't write who's okay. That's fine. I think that's good. Just in case you didn't. Yeah. We're not gonna disclose the name of the people who asked the questions in case you want to send in more. You know, I mean, if you if you're okay with us saying it, maybe let us know for next time. But for now, we'll be glad to say so. You want me to start? Would you like to start? Um. I'll start. Okay. Go for it. Okay. May I just point out that I did get questions for you to ask you, but you didn't get any questions to ask me, so. They're either for questions for both of us or for you specifically, which is kind of funny. So I guess Dylan and the story, I guess I'm not that big of a mystery after all. Maybe like Aria, it's just Susie. We know what we know. Susie. No, I you know, I just think I think there's a lot more people that maybe had questions. They just didn't get a chance to send them in. Or maybe they just haven't, you know, listened to all first three episodes. Maybe. So we'll give you guys the chance, an opportunity to ask again later. Yes. Okay. So the first question is, okay, which I kind of feels like for both of us, but it's it's geared towards you in a way as well. So you'll see once I ask the question, who really takes longer to get ready? Because I think it's Miguel. Yeah, that's definitely not me. Uh, I can tell you this, and I, I remember when I saw the question, I was thinking, man, I can literally take a shower. Shave. Get ready. Have breakfast, have coffee, and Susie's not ready yet. This is true. I can do all of that. And, like, hardly any time. So to answer the question, Susie is the one that takes. Yes. Yes they do. How much longer? A lot more so I can literally do all. I have to blame it on my hair. The difference in hair length between you and me. Clearly says why I take longer. That's a little bit. I mean, unless I just throw it up in a bun or something, but the hair is usually what takes me the longest. Besides the makeup, if I do makeup and then are just picking out the outfit, I don't know how. I mean, because you're a guy, I guess. I don't know if it's just so much easier to pull out a shirt and a pair of pants, and then we're all I it's I'll try on 20 outfits before I figure out which is the one that I want to wear, because you as a girl and girls will understand this. Some days you feel like, oh, I'm so skinny, like this will look great on me. And some days you're like, oh, this is not the day I feel so bloated. And so the outfit takes a long time. The hair takes a long time, the makeup takes a long time. But I still feel like in regards to girls, like, I don't really take that long. Maybe an hour and a half from start to finish to get ready. Do you agree? Uh, no. How long do you think it is? At least two. Three hours. There is no way. There is times. There is times where we may have to leave the house by like five. And at 2:00 you say I have to start getting ready. Oh, that's because I have to wash my hair. Okay, so. So it's not an hour and a half then even even on. Okay. See, even on the days that I have to trim my beard. And that takes a long time. All right. Make sure you get the right trim. I'm still waiting. That's fine. As long as they know you are way faster. I still my longest day when I have to. Whether as a Monday or Friday or I shave and I trim my beard. It's. It's nothing compared to, I say, at least three hours. Three hours if I have to wash my hair. So three hours it takes you to get ready, which is not all the time. So I don't wash my hair every day. So, so clearly I'm the winner. Takes longer. I do take to get ready. Great question. All right. So let's see. I don't know why people thought it would be me that takes longer I don't know. I think that was a joke, obviously. Okay, this is a good question. Um, how do you handle a disagreement? Would you like to go first? Um, I don't know. You know, it's. I know this is going to sound so weird, but we actually don't really get into a lot of disagreements. Do you agree? It's my aware of the highway, so. I mean, it's very rare. Yes, that is true. It's very rare that we actually disagree on something. But we have this agreement. Obviously we have and we've had this agreement. Yes. And so the best answer, because obviously I've been thinking about a lot of this answers since people submitted the questions. Um, you know, at the beginning, early on in our career, like a lot of couples, you know, it's tough because you have your way. I have my way, you have your personality. I have my personality. You have your different upbringing. I have my different upbringing. And sometimes we don't want to give in a little bit. Right? You know, we all went through that. We all go through that. Every couple I feel goes through that. And one of the things we've learned to do over these years is to kind of give in a little bit. You know, when you're wrong, just admit you're wrong. You know, and when you're right, sometimes, even though you know that you are 100% right, it just takes a little bit of giving in, you know, to go and approach you or vice versa. You to me and just give in, you know, you just say, I'm sorry. Um, you know, and we, we maybe we can talk about it. Right. And, and one of the things I know we're great at is next time, you know, hey, if this happens again next time. Correct. Let's just handle it this way. Right. And that's one way that we have overcame a lot of our disagreements throughout the years. But I think nowadays we just let things go. Yeah. I don't feel like from my point of view at least, is that nothing is that big of a deal. I think I've gotten to the point in my life where I'm like, it's not that big of a deal. Like, if that's how he wants to handle that, then that's how he wants to handle that, and I'm okay with it. Unless I think it's just crazy of you, which hardly ever happens. So I kind of feel like I just give in just because. And I'm sure you feel the same way. Like you just get. Because it's not that big. Nothing is that big of a deal to, you know, like, have this huge blowout to where, you know, like, we're at each other's throats and like, you know, it's just not that big of a deal anymore to us at this age or at this stage of our life. Right. And even, you know, even though we've gotten a lot better, there's still times where we might have a small disagreement, where it eats you up inside because you just want to keep going. Right? You want to at least I might like, like your is for sure. I want to keep putting that. And I'm like time at the same time. I just stayed quiet and just like. And let it go. And you know, you come down and you're smiling and next thing you know, we're like, hey, you want to do this or you want to do that, or you want to go upstairs and you know, it's gone. The next. Yeah, the next. So great at that. I will say that about our relationship is that we are great at like just letting it go. Yeah. Like if we have a disagreement, like we hear each other out, like we fix what we gotta fix or we do what we gotta do, and then we're like, okay, on to the next. Like, let's go eat or we forget about it. Yeah, and we forget it. But we're great at forgetting about things. At least you might hold on sometimes a little something to a little more than me, but I'm great at like, okay, let's move on. I'm getting better. Yeah, I'm getting better. But it is definitely, um, a tough thing starting out because. Oh, absolutely. Because like I said, because of the different programming that people have, you know. So great question. Yes. So this is for you. Oh, that they're asking, are you starting a coaching program? Because, I mean, a lot of people don't really know, but you are actually a certified life coach. Yes, a professional a professional life coach. Um, hit my DMs. I'll tell you all about it. You know I do. I do have the ability to, um. Is it a coaching program? Yes, I do have the ability to to do coaching, uh, one on ones, which would be obviously more beneficial for a person, right, for an individual. So I do have the ability to do that. I don't do it as far as a business, however, I am very capable of doing it. So if you are interested. Send me a DM. We can talk a little bit more. There's obviously some people that we do coach in our business that obviously because it's our business, right? We guide them and we coach them, and whether it's with what we do or in personal. Right. Uh, but if anyone is interested on learning more about that, how you can benefit from, you know, any coaching that I might be able to provide and let me know? Yeah, Miguel is great at that. I feel like so many people go to you for advice. It's like you have this energy or I don't know what it is, but it always happens where somewhere. And people just start throwing up on you like they want to know, like, help me, help me out, you know? I'm like, oh, there's Miguel, 32 give advice. I, I honestly and yes, you're absolutely right. I honestly don't know what it is. But there's times where I meet people, even for the first time, and they just tell me things. You know, I don't know if they just see this thing about me that they can trust and say things that maybe they're not willing to tell anyone else. Yeah. Uh, so I listen, I don't judge, you know, and we do the best that we can to help. So. But yeah, that's a great question. No, that was a great question. Yeah. Let me know. Okay. Let me read this right here. The next question is. What's the best relationship advice that you've received? Man, I don't know if we've ever received, really. I don't remember ever having received relationship advice. Is that weird? I mean, if somebody has men. I'm sorry. It didn't really register. Well, you know, we've we've had some examples of what not to do. Yes, that's for sure. We've had examples we've had, but I don't know if we've ever received advice as far as our relationship go. I cannot recall one. You know, I can't either. And and looking back at the people that maybe influenced us when we first got married, well, my mom on my side, um, I don't think, you know, I ever got any relationship advice. It's almost like we were left to figure things out on our own. Yes. And like, if you heard the last episode, we, uh, a lot of people didn't even want us to stay together. So, minerals, were they going to give us relationship advice? And so I kind of feel like we've never asked for advice. No one's ever given us advice. So the people that didn't want us to stay together are probably the ones that have the worst relationships. Honestly, that's true. And and and to be honest, because we were talking about this this morning is how, you know, in anything in life you're going to learn what to do from someone, but at the same time, because of their actions, right, because of what they're doing. But at the same time, you're also going to learn what not to do because of their actions and what they're doing. And so you got to be aware of that. You know, there's many people that we love dearly, but they just don't have the best. At least they don't portray to have the best relationship just because of maybe how one of them acts towards the other. And those are the things that we've seen. And I would say like, I would never do that right, and I would never let her do that. Yeah. So I feel like the everything we, like you said, learned is from examples that we did not want to be. So like we just did the opposite. Yeah. We just did the opposite for reals. Like for example, it's known that I don't really have the greatest relationship with my mom. And so growing up, I just didn't like the relationship that I had between me and my mom. And even to this day, we're just our relationship. You know, I love my mom dearly is just that. We just have a hard time communicating with each other. So. I made it a point that when I had a list that I did not want to be that person, I did the complete opposite of whatever I grew up with, with my daughter and me. My daughter had the greatest relationship. Like, I love her dearly. She loves me dearly. She ever needs help. She knows that I'm there for her. I drop everything to go help my daughter. I do whatever she wants. Maybe over. Maybe I overdo it and maybe I might over like. But I don't care. Like that's the relationship I want to have with my daughter that I didn't have with my mother, even to this day. So then we don't judge them either. And neither one of our kids know on things that they have done or want to do. Yeah, and so that's exactly how it is with our relationship. My parents don't have the greatest marriage, but they're still married. But I we made sure we did the complete opposite of whatever they're doing. So again, I think that's what helped our relationship is that we did the complete opposite of what we didn't like, that we saw as an example and we didn't like. Yeah. And going back to whoever asked the question as far as what the greatest relationship advise I would, I would suggest at this point, the one thing that I know that has probably worked the most for you and I is communication. It's communicating everything. And when I mean everything, I mean everything. Because you're a spouse, in a sense, it's got to be your best friend, right? At one point, you're a spouse. You have to be able to communicate to your spouse like you're communicating to your best friend. Sometimes you don't. You tell things to your best friend that you don't tell your spouse. And and I get it. Sometimes that's necessary because you might need some advice or you might need something, um, to hear us as far as the second opinion, but I think if you get to a point where you can communicate with one another as a friend and you can tell that person things that maybe you weren't able to say before, and you can have that open conversation communication, I think they'll help out your relationship a lot, a lot. And the one thing about it is that we do notice with other couples is that they they don't do that. No, they hide a lot of stuff from me to keep things away from one another. And it just builds up and it builds up and it builds up. And because they never communicated with one another where there's the men or the women or it doesn't matter, um, whether there's one or the other on the relationship that just blows up after, you know, and it's hard to say because it could be a month, a year, ten years or 20 years. I've heard people say. Have 20 years of hell, you know, and they never communicate it. No. You know, so they that's the one key that I would that I would say just communicate more. And so of course we can spend the whole episode talking about this. So it might be an episode of the future. Great question. Okay. How did your friends react when you started changing and not going out anymore? I've been thinking about this. You know, I remember this, I remember. So going back, if you guys remember the last episode, we talked about how, you know, once I started paying attention more to the family life and the the kids and wanting to have the, the discipline right, to do something different, to do something better, to get out of my job. You know, once you start making those changes in your life and the changes are going to be for the better, right? For you and for your spouse and for your kids. What's going to happen is you're going to have and this is, if you remember, on the last episode, I said, quote unquote friends. Because if you have a true friend and you go to your friend and you tell them that you want to do better for you and your family, that person should be able to congratulate you and not only congratulate you, but also help you. Now, if that friend turns around and does something different or says something different, that does not go along with what your new path in life is, then you need to reevaluate that friendship. There might be great people. There might be, you know, amazing human beings, but they just don't see what you see. And so that's what happened to me when I started. You know, people would call me and say, hey, let's go out Friday night. And I would say, I, I, I cannot, you know, I gotta get up early on Saturday morning because I have a Saturday morning training. You know, when I started back then, it was Saturday morning trainings that we would do. And, uh, people one time I remember one time I had somebody call me and they wanted me to go to their house because they were going to have all of our other friends go to his house on Saturday morning. And they were doing something, uh, in their house, and everybody was going to help. And I remember telling this person, you know, I, I, I won't be able to, you know, and so I felt like maybe they took it as a disrespect that I told them that I wasn't going to go. But at that time, I remember clearly exactly the conversation. It was on the phone. And I remember exactly thinking, no, I'm going to stand for what I'm going to do, you know? And so their reaction maybe was disrespect, I would say, because up to that point you have been there, you know, for pretty much anything that went down that you were going to be there. And don't get me wrong, any emergency, of course you're going to go and you help out. But when it comes down to you making the decision between your family and bettering yourself and messing around with your friends, then they're going to take it as a disrespect. Yeah, and you're right. The right friend would have just been like, you know that's okay I understand. Mhm. And so yeah you, you start to reevaluate your friends for sure at that point. Yeah. You see them, you say hi you, you know. Yes. They're still there. Still they're still there. Yeah. They're still friends. They're just not. You just don't do the things you're used to do before with. Correct. And they're always going to remember you for that. Those things that you did and sometimes they're proud of you. Sometimes they're not. So. But yeah, they uh going back to the questions, how did they react? I think they took it as a disrespect. But it is what it is. It is all right. Am I am I reading the next one? Okay, let me get my glasses here. Who are your favorite Californians? Oh, Lord. Well, I like that. It's plural, so I could say lots of Californians. Yeah. You know, we love we love our friends that we have in California. We have a lot of friends that live out there. We have a great couple friends that we met in in Mexico. Yes, we met them in Mexico. And they're from California and they're, we're, we're we live here in Vegas, right. And Henderson and we became best friends in Mexico at a resort that we were staying that we randomly found. Yeah. And we were it was funny. We were just hanging out at the pool. And that's because you're such a social butterfly. I offered them shots and they said no. So, hey, we just became best friends. So they live in California, they've come to Vegas and we've hung out with them. We keep in contact with them all the time, so they're great friends. And then, of course, you have a lot of family. What we write. Yes, we we have a lot of family. But I'm saying from your side of the family, um, they're in California and they're obviously they're obviously my cousins. They introduce us as they look at me and said, this is my cousin and his wife. Yes. Oh my gosh, my boy cousin for sure. He's introduced me like that. Like this is my cousin. This is his wife. And I'm like, I'm your cousin. He's the husband. Like, no, um, but yes, we my cousins, I absolutely all your cousins. Yes. Yeah. All of them. Uh, we can mention names if you want, but all of them, you know, Lupe, Kyle, Jose, all of them. You know, I mean, they're they're all I said, you know, great family as well, too. Um, and I hope I don't forget somebody I've been known to, like, pick up and be like, bye, baby. I'm going to go visit my cousin. Like, yeah, just like that. Because all of them, I love them. So my family will definitely do anything for them. And I know they they're the same way we've, we've had I mean, 30 plus years since since I've known you, I've known them. And we in a sense grew up together. And some of them were younger than me, you know, and, um, but. Yeah. Great. So those are all our favorite Californians, Adrian. My favorites. Okay. What is your favorite memory or memories together? There are so many. There are so many memories together. Um, the day we got married to having our children, there is a lot of them. There is a lot. All the trips that we've taken, I mean, we've been all over the place, you know, and we've taken obviously our kids with us through these trips. And those are all great memories, you know, from the times we've been to Mexico to even going to Venezuela together one time. I think we have a lot of great memories together. Um, good times, not so good times. Um, but, yeah, I think, I mean, I don't know if there's one particular one. It's it's it's hard to say. And that's another thing that a lot of people miss. They missed out on living. And because they missed out on living, they don't really have that many memories together. But I think that's one thing we've been able to do. It's really live. Yeah. And we've been able to really build memories. I think one of the best memories and a lot of people will agree with me, was our 25th wedding anniversary. Oh, what I remember, yes. For those that were we're here. I think it's a great time, but Miguel only lasted until 830. You know, I do feel bad for the people that didn't make it because they missed out on a great party. Oh, my gosh. People come to us to this day and to this day party every time we get the memories, like, you know, on either snap or, you know, Instagram and re repost his memories. We relive this, this party memories. Everybody everybody on a Tuesday we had a party on a on a Tuesday on our 25th wedding anniversary. It was it was amazing. Yeah. I didn't last all party, but everybody had a great time and that's all that matters. So I always say that to people that you had a great day like, oh, you didn't last 830. You were done. I was like, did you have a good time? I had a great time. That's all that matters. I call it my ghetto Fabulous party because I made everyone dress up super fancy, which everyone did come super fancy. But I had tacos. Yes, I had my taco man, which is my cousin. Shout out to your cousin that lives here that those oh no man he makes. Honestly, I think he is not because he's my cousin, but honestly, he makes the best tacos, I feel. And so we had a taco cart. In our backyard, in our backyard with all these. And I had decorated the backyard so fancy. And we had our live band, which my neighbors did not appreciate. Cops were called like twice, I think. Yeah, and they did come. But then they understood and they but the band was done by then, so they were like, it's fine. They didn't. They didn't really care. But they, we even offered the police officers tacos and stuff, but they didn't take I don't remember that part. You were you were done by then. You did not see the cops. It's funny, you mentioned that our 25th wedding anniversary party, because I remember when we were planning this party and we wanted to do it, you know, we were looking for us alone, right, to do the party. And I remember you said, look, our wedding party when we first got married, right? 28 years ago was in a backyard. And she goes, we're celebrating 25 years, but this time the party is going to be in our backyard. Yeah. And so that's the reason why we did it in our backyard. I mean, not only thank God, we were able to have a decent sized yard that we can fit a lot of people, but at the same time, it was mostly that it was just to, you know, this is what it was and this is what it is 25 years later, of course, in a much better position now. Yeah, but that was a great memory. Other than that, we have a lot of great memories together. Okay, I think I'm reading the next question. Okay. It says, is there anything you wish you could do? Go. You could. Is there anything you wish you could go back and redo? Um, yeah. You know, I, I know the person that that asked this question. And the one thing I could probably say that I wish I could go back and redo is to probably learn how to appreciate the time that I had with you and the kids earlier. You know, it took me getting into the business that we're in right now to have examples of people that have built businesses together and have spouses being involved in the business and have kids being involved in the business. And so it took that for me to realize that, man, maybe I should follow those examples. And I do love how these families are. And I do one for my family. Right? But I wish I would have found the time to really, truly appreciate you and the kids earlier than what I did. Now I can sit here and say that I regret not doing it because, as I mentioned before, I don't really have any regrets in life. I think everything we've been through was meant for us to go through and it helped us out on our relationship. But if there's one thing that I can go back and redo. Will be that. And I know we've talked about maybe you want to talk about what we say as far as maybe waiting on having kids. Yeah. So I have I want to say that maybe like a first when I was really, really young and I had, um, our daughter, I want to say that at that time I would constantly say to myself, like, I wish I just would have waited longer to have her to, like, be able to give her a better life because and I don't even think she really remembers how much we we struggled. Um, but it was hard, a really hard a lot of times where, like, I was like, I don't even know how I'm going to feed this girl, you know, or like. And so at that point, if you would ask me, I would, I would have said, I wish I would have had her later in life and given her a better life. But now that I look back at it, I'm actually really glad that I had her so young. Right? Uh, because I think I could appreciate my grandchildren now for a lot longer. And we're so young. We're really young grandparents and I and I love that because I don't I if I think, man, if imagine if we would have been like in our 60s and barely starting to have grandkids, like, I wouldn't be able to run around with them as much as I can right now. I probably wouldn't be able to help my daughter as much as I can right now. Like there's a lot of things that are benefit now that obviously I didn't see back then, so I wouldn't. If you would ask younger me, yes, I would have probably said, oh, I wish I could have had her later. But now standing like at this moment, I'm like, no, I'm glad we had her so young. I'm glad we had Miguelito so young because that was Miguelito. I had just turned 21, which is still really young to even have a second child, right? And no. So I'm I'm glad it all worked out, even though I didn't see it back then. Yeah, yeah. Going back, those are the things that definitely will redo. I think you got the next question. Okay. The next question. Uh, married to my high school sweetheart in 98. But how do I deal after a divorce a couple years ago? Any advice? Well, we have never gone through a divorce. No. So? So that's a hard question to answer. It's. It's hard to answer. But at the same time, there has been conversations between you and I right in regards to if, God forbid, something ever happens. Right. And we're no longer together. Yes. And we're still alive. Yes. And so the outcome will be to do the best that we possibly can to still remain friends. Now I get that every circumstance is different. Every relationship is different. Every person is different. And there are times where people end up being friends after. Right. A divorce, and I think that's the best because of if there's kids and grandkids and you really want to be able to set a good example. But I do know some people that get divorce and they they go their like each other. They think of their spouse as the worst, you know, and they can't even see them. They can't stand each other. They they do all these crazy things to one another. And so it's hard for a, for me at least, to be able to give advice on how to follow through after a divorce. But I would suggest just keep it really as quarter as possible. Friendly. Um, you know, just do your best to move on, I guess. I don't, I don't know, I mean, I know that's a tough one, but I do agree that if if it is possible, because obviously every situation is so different, try to remain friends just right cordial, especially if you have children involved, if you don't have children involved and there's nothing really to attach yourselves with each other, then I guess there's no real reason to be even even friends. But you move on. You move on. But I always did say that you would be my sneaky link if we ever got a divorce. All right, my 2 a.m. call. Okay, but we're still married, so that's not happening, man. Okay, well, I don't want to say I'm looking forward to that, but if that ever happened, I'll be looking forward to that. So. All right, let me read the next question. What's the biggest lesson you've learned so far in life, and why is it the biggest? Ah. You know, I think the biggest lesson for me has been, um, just to appreciate the time that you have with people. You know, I think every person comes into your life for a reason, and you're supposed to be aware of that. You're supposed to see what the best thing that life can give you after meeting somebody. Right? Because everybody brings different things, right? Some people bring value to you and some people don't, but even the ones that don't bring value can still give you a lesson out of it. Right? Because that has been, you know, there's people that come into our life and we get to know them for a little bit and for whatever reason, they're not into in our lives anymore. But they actually showed us something. They they, we learned something from by getting to know that person and being, um, you know, around them for a short period of time. And so with me and obviously family will be that the biggest lesson that I can think of, that life has given me is to appreciate those who are around you, your loved ones, because you don't know when your last day with him is going to be. Yeah. Very true. You just don't. People live like they're going to live forever. Yeah. People live like they're going to be here all the time. Yeah. So they delay a lot of things in their lives that maybe you shouldn't delay, you know? And then comes their regrets when something does happen and you could have made that call, you could have spent more time with that person. You could have done things with that person that you never did for whatever reason. And now that person's gone. And so that is a hard lesson at that point because, you know, that person's gone. So going back to that question, the answer would be just appreciate those who come into your life, whether they bring value or not. Right. And learn from it. And those that you have that are close to you, that are loved, loved ones like really appreciate the time that you that you're with them and build memories with them. Absolutely. That's a great lesson. Great question too. Okay. Secret to a long lasting relationship I feel like we get this question so much. And I always think about it and I'm like, I don't I, I, I don't know, but I, I want to see maybe it's because and I, I've said this before to people who have asked us, I feel like it's because we grew up together. And maybe that's what makes our relationship so special is the fact that we were literally kids when we met. And so we grew up together. So in a sense, we I don't know how to explain it in a sense, since we grew up together, we just knew how to work out our problems and our situations, and then it just worked out that way. I don't know if you agree. No. Yeah, I agree because you you know me better than anyone else and I know you better than anyone else. Right? And it goes back to what I said, part of the communication with one another. And it goes back to, you know, becoming a best friend. You know, with that person. I think those two are key to a long lasting relationship. When you look back at some failed marriages and failed relationship is because they didn't trust each other, they didn't communicate with one another. Um, they didn't know the real person, you know, they didn't know each other. I think that the the knowing people part plays a lot into a relationship that you truly have to do know how that person is and how that person acts, and how that person reacts to certain things that you may do. And once you get to learn that and adjusted, then you can start molding. You know how that relationship is with tons of communication and becoming becoming really best friends. Yeah, I think I think that that to me, I can attribute that why our relationship has lasted this long. You know, so yes, that's open communication definitely helps. Right. I feel like a lot of people do try to hide stuff from their partners and then. Right. That's when it all just goes. Yeah. I watch a lot of people start opening up to their spouses and all these divorces. No, that's not what we wanna know, obviously. Yeah, I'm joking, but, you know, they took a lot for us to learn that 100%. This isn't. It didn't just happen overnight. Yeah. I mean, there was definitely a lot of disagreements. And we were a couple, though. We were that. We were that couple. We were that couple that were not best friends. So do we have not had to clarify this for a lot of people? It's something we've worked maybe in the last, maybe ten years of our relationship, if anything. Right. Um, but we were that couple that we're not sharing everything with one another. We were that couple that were not best friends to one another, you know, I mean, we we we loved each other, but we we weren't seeing things how we see it today. Yeah. And I want to say it's been maybe only, what, eight years that we really like what I said like ten, but eight, eight, 8 to 10 years that we really, really became like good, like good friends. Like really actually. Right. Our friends that were not just this, these two roommates who lived together and you know. Yeah. No. So yeah. Okay. The next question, what's the best? What's the secret for being together for so long? Well, I think that's that that goes along. That goes right along with that last question. You know, I think that, um, which I feel like we'll definitely do a podcast on that because I feel like there's a lot of stuff that we're not covering that maybe would help people, but it's just that more times, what are what are what are one of those things? Okay. So like how did we become best friends. That question you know there. Right. It was a lot of trial and error for sure. Yeah. And so how did we become best friends. Like what did we open up to each other that made us be like this? Now we're going to talk about that. Okay, I think you got the next question. What would you what would be your advice to those trying to be successful in life? Well, success is the journey. You know, people think success is the destination. And it sounds like a meme and it's not, you know? Yeah, I sound very Instagrammable right now. Yeah. Um, I sound like one of those cliche pose you did that sounded very like. Okay, but I really, I dislike I just know, I know I don't like cliches though, but no, truly, success is not really a point where you get to your cell count successful. I'm going to stop. It really is the journey that you're going through right now, or really is everything you're living on a daily basis. I think if you see yourself becoming successful or if you see yourself being successful, then you're going to be successful, you know, and you can look at yourself in all areas of life, right? You can look at yourself from the fitness point of view, you know. How are you doing on that? Are you successful in that area of life? Do you work out every day? Do you watch what you eat every day? Do you take care of your body with the right supplements and do not abuse you know, things that can possibly hurt your body down the road? Um, same thing in in professional, right? Your your career, your job. Do you see yourself successful in that area? Have you accomplished things that at one point you set a goal to do and you went and did it? Uh, same thing with relationship, right? Do you see yourself as having a successful relationship? And so all these different things, right, all these different areas of life that you could be successful. But again, it's not a point. Like, like I want people to understand that we're not at a point, we're at a point in our relationship where it's it's it's great. It's working. But I know that we can get better. Same thing with work. Same thing with health. Same thing with, you know, family. It's working right now and it's awesome. And we love it, but it can always be better. And I feel like it's always a learning thing because. Right. You never stop learning better. Like you said, it comes to business. There's always something new to learn regardless of what area of business you're in. There's always another level, right? And so same thing with the fitness. There's always another level of fitness when you, you know, you might get to where you want to be, but there's still a point in your fitness where you have to maintain it. So it's still learning thing, you know, to learning to maintain it. Same thing with the relationship. You know, just because, I mean, you are getting along so great and have been for many years, does it mean that we just throw in the towel, you know, like there's still learning, there's still stuff that we have to learn about each other. So it's always, always, always going to be a learning thing, an ongoing thing, an ongoing thing. And that's what I mean by it. It's always ongoing. But at one point you can you can take a break and look back at everything that you've accomplished, and you can look at yourself and say, man, I've had a successful this. Yes, I've had a successful that. We're still going to another level. We still taking our whatever, you know, area of life to a whole nother level. But to this day we've had success at it. So success is just an ongoing thing. If you look at us when we first started in this business 23 years ago. Yes, we've. You know, we're a success for changing from what we used to be all the way to where we are now. But that doesn't mean we stop. That doesn't mean we've reached the destination. There's still so much more to accomplish after this. Correct. Okay, I got a question right here. If you guys were not in the financial services industry, what do you think you'll be doing? Would you still be in business for yourselves or a corporate job? Great question. That is a great question. Man, that's a actually kind of a tough question for me. Uh, I would I have always said this. I've always been like a numbers person and maybe like a science person. Like, for some reason, my part of the brain, like, they love math and science, so. Right. I think that for me, I would have either stayed in accounting somewhere, I probably would have a corporate job. A corporate job, um, a stayed in accounting somewhere or like worked in like. A lab. I don't know why that interests me so much. Like I would be doing CSI. Yeah, like DNA testing and all that. Like I found your person. Yes. This was a match. You know, that would totally be me. Like, I could see myself doing that, but it definitely probably a corporate job. And the only reason I say that is because if we weren't had, if we wouldn't have been interested, I mean, not interested. Sorry. If we wouldn't have been introduced to the business that we're in, I don't know if I would ever have the mindset of being a business person, right? My mindset would still be very much a corporate person. The only reason we got switched to a business mindset person was because of the business that we were introduced to. So I just, I don't know if that would have ever came into my life. As far as that goes. So I think that would definitely be a corporate person, right? For me. You know, prior to us getting introduced to the business that we're in. My, my intentions were to climb up big corporate ladder. Right when I worked for Home Depot, my intentions were to become an assistant manager, then a store manager. but honestly, I don't think I would have stayed there. My goal prior to joining our business was to become a cop. That was what I really wanted to do. I just couldn't do it at that time because I wasn't a U.S. citizen at that time. I was just arrested, and I remember becoming a U.S. citizen after we had joined the business that we're in right now. But by then, of course, I didn't want to be a cop anymore. So for me, I don't think I'll be in a corporate job. I agree, I don't know if business ownership would have been something that we would have pursued. Uh, but I do feel I would have became a police officer and, uh, pursued a detective career after that. So we would have been somewhat in the same business. Yes. So you would have been coming to me and been like, babe, I need you to process this quickly. Yes, I need to know if we got our man. Hey. And maybe that would have been our business, but, yeah, I think those would have been our careers. I love that, yes, very much so. Okay, this is the last question, you guys. What is the secret to staying and looking so young? Botox. Hey, that's. That's a good one. But you know what? You know what? At least I'm not afraid to admit it. I, like a lot of people are afraid to admit that they talk. I mean, there just comes to a point in your life where, and if anyone knows me, knows that I love skincare like I am all about my skincare. Like I take care of my skin, but there's only so much that skincare could do that sometimes you just need like a little bit of something, right? You know, we're due for a session here soon. Yeah. So I mean, for as far as for both of us, we're great at taking care of our health. Like we're great about taking lots of great supplements. That right, you know, take care of our body, which then shows on our skin. I'm great. I even put you on a skincare routine for yourself. Yes. So, um, you obviously the skincare, um, the water, the exercise. So there's a lot in involved as far as, um, being looking so young. Yeah. You know, and that's the thing you gotta, you gotta know your body. Right. And and things of what, what are the things that you need to do to keep yourself young, right? I mean, we all know that if you do something that's not good for your body, it's going to reflect on your on your aging. You know, it's going to reflect on your health. But I think a lot of it has to do with your mental. You know, your mental, um, like how you look at yourself. Yeah. You like your mental. Like your mental, right? Like, for instance, I remember this. Okay, I remember, um, I have a friend that he is probably four years older than me. Okay. So I was 26 when this happened because I remember he was 13. Uh, he was turning 30 years old. And I remember I went up to him and I said, man, happy birthday. How does it feel to be 30? And he says, oh, I'm old man. I'm just an old papa, you know? And I remember thinking, I don't ever want to think that. I don't ever want to think that, you know, this morning at the gym, there's a guy that I know I work out with, and he told me the same thing, and I'm just getting old. And this guy is six years younger than me, you know, and he's saying that. And to me, like, I, I can never think that way. In fact, I'm 46. And when people ask me that question, even me right now that I just said that when people ask me that question and I hear 46, I think that's like way out there. Like it doesn't seem real. Like it doesn't seem like. Because I don't. I don't feel 46. Yeah. I don't act 46. I don't act like I'm four years away from being 50 years old. In fact, I don't even think the other day they thought my 23 year old son and me were brothers. And we've gotten that before. Remember? I just got it last week with my daughter. Yeah, we've gotten that. One time there was a four of us, I think we were going to Puerto Rico, and they saw all of our last names. They check our passports and they're like, oh, brothers, brothers and sisters, siblings traveling together. And we're like, oh no, it's my wife. There's our kids. Yeah. And so I think it's a mental thing to yes, you gotta do the training. You gotta do the eating right. You cannot abuse alcohol. You cannot, you know, um, all these different things that you got to do. But at the same time, I think your mindset, you know, your mindset, you cannot put yourself in that position of your thinking that you're old because the second you say it, you're gonna feel old. And so don't bring that negativity around me. Yeah, it's true, though I always think I say that, I say that, I say that that plays a big part. It does the mental. Yes, it does. And I and I love saying, oh, we're young grandparents. You know, I love that when we take out our grandkids that people think that there are children. I'm like, yeah, no, that I'm their grandma. Like, I'm actually happy to say it because I know we look young to be. We are young to be grandparents, but I know we look young to be grandparents, so it actually makes me proud. I'm like, yeah, I'm a young grandma. I don't look like a grandma, but I'm a young grandma and I love that. I'm a young grandma. I don't see him old grandma like. Right. You know, one thing I want to say, too is that I remember, you know, especially in our business, how we had a team at one point that were nothing but a bunch of youngsters. Right. And so I think being around people who are younger than you helps out as well too. It sure does. You know, if you start hanging out with people in the, in the, in our age group. Yeah. And then double meetings, then you're going to be, you know, like those people. Yeah. Uh, but like, like for instance in our, in our, in our block right here in our cul de sac, we're the youngest. We are we are the youngest. You know, everyone else around us is like in their 60s or 70s. Believe it or not, these are older people that live right here. Were the youngest in our whole street. I think we're the youngest. But isn't it funny how that when we have parties are like, invite us? They all want to come, they all want to hang out with us. I want to feel young with us. And the parties have come. They've still talked about it. They still love it. They're like, invite us to your parties. You know, like they feel so young. And that's how you have to feel like, man, I can hang out with these young people still. In fact, all of our friends are actually way younger than. Yeah. So what I'm saying, we hang out with younger people, we act different, we talk different. I still think my age is still out there. Like, I don't feel like I'm my age at all. I feel like I'm in my 20s, to be honest. So. But hey, that was fun. Yeah, I love all the questions, and I do hope that all the answers that we provided are of value to you guys. And again, if you're listening to this and didn't get a chance to ask a question last time, may we submit a question and we can answer it as we go? Yep. Anything else? I feel like we're definitely need to expand on how we became best friends. Episode would be a great episode. Yeah, so look out for that one. Yep, that's all for now then. I love you guys. Love you guys. Have a great day. Bye. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Unfiltered Us. If you enjoy this conversation, don't forget to hit that follow button so you never miss an episode. We'd love to hear your thoughts. Drop a comment and join in the conversation. 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